Does anyone else feel awkward having a single Friend?

I think you are worrying too much about your wife becoming jealous. You're not jealous about her friends, why should she? Adults can be good friends with other adults regardless of their relationship status. Just because one is single does not mean they are predators looking to flirt at any given chance. Conversely, just because one is married doesn't mean they won't make a move on others. Try to calm down and evaluate your friendships individually for what it is, and if issues of jealousy come about, handle it case by case.

 

I completely get what you're saying, I just recently had a similar conversation. If you were straight, you would have a male husband and probably a female best friend. Being gay means that you want a best friend that is the same gender and sexuality as your partner which could very easily make your partner feel jealous or inadequate, in a way that a straight female friend wouldn't affect a husband.

For me, as much as I would like to find new gay male friends, it feels awkward knowing that I am actively seeking to become friends with someone on the basis that we are both male and attracted to men, even though it obviously wouldn't form a physical part of the relationship.

My partner is the same, not jealous or possessive but I worry that spending time with other (new) gay men would cause him to be concerned. Maybe there's a part of me that wants him to object, I'm not sure.

I don't really have any useful advice because it appears we're in a similar situation but I thought it would help to know you're not the only one thinking it.