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Partner of 4.5 years has stopped loving me

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by TeaStained, Jul 1, 2016.

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  1. TeaStained

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    I don't know what to do... We're all each other has, but she's never going to be happy with me. Breaking up would do both of us a lot of harm, and she's very depressed and unstable... It'd take me many years to find anything like what I have with her. I've never had another serious relationship.

    She's the greatest piece of joy that's ever been in my life. I was planning to propose. I feel so lost.
     
    #1 TeaStained, Jul 1, 2016
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    If she's depressed and unstable, then it might be the case that she needs some help - counseling, etc. Has she tried pursuing this as an option, or has it been brought up?

    One thing I do want to suggest - try not to make yourself responsible for her happiness and well-being. There are some forms of help (professional psychological/medical) that you can't find inside of a relationship, and it's both normal and healthy to seek it elsewhere. If she's not getting that, then I hope it's something that she's able to explore. Getting you both on firmer ground so that you can return to each other with firmer footing would be a great start.
     
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    Try not to think in terms of absolutes ("all", "never", etc.). What you can do is direct her to a professional counselor/therapist who can help her. You should not be her only source of support, especially when you are being stressed out yourself.
     
    #3 resu, Jul 4, 2016
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