How to cope with not being able to see him?

Hi @EncagedPhoenix,

Sometimes we can become anxious and frustrated as we anticipate the favorable things our that is ahead of us in the future, and our minds will make us feel its so near yet so far and would want to immediately get to the result. As much as we would like, life doesn't go our way most of the time and time will also move according to its own pace. This is something beyond our control.

I am aware its not easy, but try to just feel this feeling inside of you. Let it fill entirely inside your body and just let it be. Pay attention to your breathing and count your breath if you have to. Breath in and breath out. As you feel your heart racing, chest tightening, and your mind flashing all sorts of stories in your head, try to just let it be. Try to sense that despite all these process that is going on inside you, you are still You. Awareness. Still aware of these process, thoughts, feelings and emotions racing inside you. Just try to observe this feelings and not do anything. Often our minds tell us we can't bear the emotions because its too painful and wish it would just go away. But feelings will be there to stay. Trying to hold back and going against the feeling will only make it worst. But you don't have to listen to your mind telling you its difficult to bear. Its just feelings. That's all it is. Let is express itself within you. Despite the feelings, you are still you, being aware of the feelings itself. As you observe the feelings, and not do anything, eventually it will go away. I hope this make sense to you.

I would also try to express all that emotional energy into something more constructive by jogging outside, gym or writing it all out in a letter etc. It helps with processing the thoughts and emotions. You can also distract yourself with other favorite activities.

There was my favorite saying that goes:

If you already know you can't solve the problem, why worry?
If you know you can solve the problem, why worry too?


My thoughts,

Ben