Am I taking things too quickly or is he bad news?

Did you mention you like exclusivity? Some guys are very used to playing around and won't be exclusive until you are official, and others just cheat.

 

:/ Well, that mindset of a "last week" already concerns me, but really it's up to you. The only thing I can really tell you is what I'd do, and what most people on here would advise you to do. Please decide for yourself though what is best. I've been in a bad relationship before, so I'm not sure how good what I would do is, but here's the honest answer:

What I would do (not was I necessarily suggest) is date for a little while and see how it goes. If I wanted an exclusive relationship, I'd still make that a rule, but I'd already basically confront that person with the facts that if either of us got bored of each other or no longer wanted a relationship we'd be open about it, but yeah, no cheating allowed or it's off anyway. XD Maybe you're not that forward, and that's okay- That's just my honest answer for what I'd do.

What most people on here will suggest? He seems like bad news and if what he does make you super uncomfortable you should just call it off, but if you're okay with this "last chance" stuff you should talk to him about it. If it seems like it will happen again during the relationship, break up with him. As I said, that's what most people on here will say- not necessarily what I suggest either. Really, this is something that you just have to "go with your gut on". I hope everything works out for you.

 

idk. you arent really boyfriends so its not cheating. though i wouldnt do it out of respect for others, he could just still look around and hook up untill youre actually together. I personally wouldnt date him anymore, because its a pretty shitty thing to just do this while youre dating someone else. you can confront him, but he may try to get you back. dont end it and forget about him in that case

 

Theses sites are basically designed to find partners through sheer volume, not by connection. There are just so many people that eventually someone is bound to find someone that they connect with. Since it is so easy to connect with so many people, it isn't common for people to give it up the second they have one or two good dates with someone, unless this is something that is specifically discussed.

As others have said, I wouldn't personally do it, but I know many quality people who would. I agree with chip that your behaviour after 2 dates is a bit concerning and that there is no need for you to stalk him after only a few hours of time together. Feel free to do as you want: If you aren't attracted to this new behaviour (sending nudes and casual dating) then stop seeing him. Alternatively, relax and see where it goes and let him do his own thing until you two become more committed.

I wouldn't become concerned until this pattern from him persists much longer into an actual relationship.

 

Did you initiate contact with each other the same way? (nudes and/or hookup)
That might tell you what he's really after / not after.

 

Personally, I think that you should just move on/keep him as a friend if you can. Although you didn't ask him if you two were exclusive he still hasn't replied to you messages in over 4 days like you said and he is messaging other people for hook ups. It doesn't seem like he is committed to finding someone at the moment.

Maybe you could give him a bit of the silent treatment and then talk to him in person about it, see if he would be up for a monogamous relationship, if not then keep him as a friend if you like him or just try and move on.

 

I would definitely ask him again about it without confronting him and see if he is honest about it. If not, then I'd say enough with him. If he is honest, maybe you need to reevaluate where to the two of you stand and make a decision. To me, there is no room for this type of dishonesty though in the relationship.

 

Don't assume exclusivity unless it's specifically spoken, period, gay, straight or otherworldly.