How do I know if he likes me or if he's interested on me too? He is my friend, we just met and knew each other 3 weeks ago. But before we even knew each other I was already keeping my eye on him while we were processing our papers for our college transfer. He really caught my attention so when the classes started I tried to find ways to befriend him, on the day we met he already has a friend with him so I was a bit shy to approach him. During the class, our professor was talking about gay people because of this I had an idea to say my opinions to them regarding the discussion. Of course, they were shocked because my approach was kind of surprising and unexpected I had the guts to talk to them because I already know that they're gay. From that point on, we introduced ourselves to each other, then after class we all went out to eat dinner. We talked about lots of things, whether it is about our past relationship, men, sex and other gay stuff we were talking about. We all separated ways when it's time to go home, me and him went home together. We rode the train and it was like a subtle date between us, he opened up about his old lover who he said he avoids because he doesn't like him because he was being boastful and he doesn't like men who are like that. Then I also told him that I had 4 girlfriends before I knew that I like men more than women. It was just a short talk; unfortunately, I have to leave already because my destination is nearer than him, then we said our goodbyes. The next day was swimming class, we still are classmates. During the class I talked about boys showing interests on him and boys wanting to court him. I also asked him if he entertains men who does those things (I asked this because I wanted some assurance, before I start subtly courting him). He simply replied with a "I don't know, maybe, it depends." and that was just our whole conversation during the class, he had to leave early for his next class. We always meet each other together with our other friend thrice a week, we all treat each other as best of friends. I already told SJ (our other gay friend) that I like him. I just really don't know if he likes me or if he's interested on me too. Mixed signals, sometimes he is awkward around me when it's just the two of us and sometimes he is not. I feel down because most of the time I feel like he is too good for me, but I really like him. I want something to be more than friends between us. Any advice? :rolle:
Look you have one foot in the door as you already know he is gay and he knows you like men too. I would just say be bold and ask him out. The worst he could say is no and you all just carry on. It's better than waiting and someone else comes along.
If ever he says yes, what things can I do for him? I dunno if courting really works on this type of relationship (same-sex relationship). I'm really nervous cause this will be my first time dating a guy, I only had experiences with women before. How do I do this? D:
Hey love! I can't say how much help I'll be here, being a gay woman not a man, but I will say this: gay dating isn't as scary or alien as you think! I used to be terrified of it too, partly because as a girl, I had only been taught to fit into situations where I was dating guys, and I had no idea what to do when trying to flirt with another girl. Luckily, once you like someone, it's not too hard to just feel what you want to say to them and do with them, regardless of norms - and if they like you too, they'll most likely reciprocate! Remember, these are all just people, and chances are they're every bit as new, confused, or nervous as you are. As for this fellow, you can try paying attention to him, talking a lot, letting him know you're interested and you care about him - try opening conversations with something new or interesting you heard about that he might be interested in too, or ask him about his day, and share with him anecdotes from your own. Tell him when he does things you like or find cute and don't hesitate to ask him plenty about himself, who he is, what he does, what he was like growing up - this is where you learn about what he's like, so you know you'll have a good relationship! You can try getting physical too - stand or sit close to him, touch his arm lightly when you're talking, things like that, and see how he reacts. Conventional dating etiquette doesn't necessarily apply here, but he may still appreciate it if you take him out places. My best advice is probably, imagine yourself in his place, and ask yourself what would you like to see from someone like yourself? Then do that. If you'd like it, there's a reasonable chance he would, too. All in all, be yourself. If you love yourself as you are, chances are that he will too. n.n Best of luck!
UPDATE: Last Tuesday night we went home together. He wanted to have a long walk with me instead of taking the nearest ride to the next train station. We walked from university until the train station it was like a 2 kilometer walk and we just basically talked about our statuses with our family being gay. Him being out to his family and accepted while I am not and only my mother knows. He just kept asking things about me, what I did when I was in highschool, what I look for in a partner. I was very happy being with him, I answered everything that he asked about me. We were just smiling and laughing the entire walk. My heart was pounding really fast during those times. I can't help it but I think we just had a "date"? I don't know, what do you think guys? Does all of these sound like he's interested?
You won't know for sure if he's interested or not until you ask him out on a proper date, like going for a coffee or something. Or if you would rather take things much slower, ask him to hang out with you and a couple other friends.
