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Gay girl here, I don't know how to have sex with women

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  1. yasdnil0025

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    Hi All,

    I recently came out this past year and I've felt so much more like myself it's not even funny.
    HOWEVER, I've tried having sex and I still don't get the hang of it. I am 5'1" and one thing that is hella confusing is scissoring, it doesn't make sense to me...All of my partners have been a bit taller than me i.e. 5'6" or so, and I am a bit more muscular so maybe it's just the parts don't match up. I've been in the market for a strap on and I have a dildo because that's just me, but how normal is that for girls to use in sex???

    Also, since I've come out, I've been nervous to tell hook-ups and dates what I want because all of this is so new, I'm kind of just trying to catch up on what I've been missing and go along for the ride. Is there any advice on how to have better sex?
    (maybe I'm crazy but i feel like there's no info on this sort of stuff and could seriously use some advice because i really want to enjoy having sex with girls!!!)
     
    #1 yasdnil0025, Jul 27, 2016
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    In all honesty scissoring is pretty much impossible unless you are both flexible although I've never tried it some say it's great but you have to be around the sane size as your partner.
    You just need to be open with your partner if you can't speak about what you like then are you ready for sex sorry to be blunt.
    Your partner will have have kinks they like or don't like you should be open about what you like.
    If you aren't enjoying sex is it because you are too nervous or trying too hard to get to the orgasm stage you should relax communicate with your partner and enjoy
     
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    Thank you! Yeah, I've been having a harder time chilling and enjoying it (although i do enjoy it a lot of moments the whole thing is still new to me so i guess i have been trying to hide my nervousness and not communicate which is pretty counter-intuitive lol). Thank you for the advice!
     
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    Communication is key in any relationship even just sex if you are nervous tell your partner you are new to this so a little bit nervous they should be accepting and understanding of your situation and help you relax into it. Just relax and go with the flow during sex don't try too hard to get an orgasm straight away if it's a new relationship most don't orgasm as you find what each other likes over time and again communication is the key tell your partner what they are doing right or wrong and they should do the same
     
    #4 confusedbubble, Jul 28, 2016
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    Communication is the key, but for shy people can be tough...

    I've never done the scissors thing, so I can't help you with that... Maybe you could try with something more basic?? Use your hands! (!)
     
    #5 SpTara, Jul 29, 2016
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    I honestly think scissoring (or tribbing in general) is pretty rare in lesbian relationships. I'm not saying it never happens, but It's never been an expected thing in my experience.
     
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    I'm a virgin so I'm probably not much help here (heh), but what about the quintessential eating out? Does that not work for you either? As for penetrative sex, I always thought you used your fingers, maybe try that as an alternative to dildos??

    I agree with Loli21 that tribbing and especially scissoring doesn't seem that popular. Scissoring honestly never made sense to me, either, and I always heard it was a construct of male-oriented porn. I know I couldn't get off on tribbing alone, personally.
     
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