I am currently going through the struggle of figuring out a friends sexuality. To start, I am bisexual or atleast thats what I think. Im only intersted in dating girls but do like having fun with certain guys. I am a 20 year old male. My friend is 17, he is a very attractive guy but is currently a virgin and has never been in a relationship. For how good looking he is, some people say that its odd. We recently became good friends roughly 6 months ago and see eachother almost everyday. The problem is, he gives off numerous gay vibes but acts very straight most of the time. There is a bit of homophobia associated as well. When we hang out its always just us two. We smoke marijuana together so he usually acts like this when were high but still gives off vibes while sober. Ill explain how he acts as gay: -he has brushed his hand on my legs a few times -he commented on the bulge in my pants ("I can see your dick"), followed by "why you gotta do that". (Not sure what that means). -he continued to glance at my bulge multiple times throughout the night and at one point we watched porn together. I became erect and he kept looking at my boner and then looking at me to see if I noticed him looking. -when we wrestle, he does get aroused and if I look at his penis area he quickly covers it using closed fists or pulls his shirt down to hide his boner -he does talk in a gay voice at times but its rare -he frequently comments on his male friends about how "theyre so nice", etc. -He used to hug me a lot but not as much anymore. He has humped me once -we do sleep in the same bed so one night he pulled his shirt up and started rubbing his nipple, then he felt my abs We are both very touchy feely with eachother but the confusing part is, he enjoys it sometimes and hates it other times. So this is where it gets complicated. Like I said..despite all the gay vibes, he acts very straight. He is always looking at pictures of girls, always talking about what girl he wants to have sex with, etc. Its like he wants to explore gay sex but then rebounds instantly. If we lay in my bed together, he will rub his legs up against mine for a few minutes but then if I do it to him he gets mad. Sometimes when we wrestle we just lay there on eachother for a minute but then he panics and says this is gay. He is almost hypacritical towards me as well. Anytime I give off a gay vibe he points it out as gay but then he goes and gives off that same vibe! Im wondering if he is in denial of his sexuality and isnt ready to accept it yet. I know hes not gay as he has a keen interest in women but I think he may be bi-curious. I hope he is, in my favour. He can be a bit homophobic which can be linked to homosexuality. He talks down about gays when the topic is brought up. He has told me that I have a crush on him and that im trying to hook up with him because im gay. It almost seems like thats what he wants. He asks me if I want to see him naked but i think that more of a test to see if I say yes. I can go on and on about more vibes and what not but this post is long enough. I sure hope someone can help me out. Basically he acts gay one minute and straight the next. I think he just isnt ready to give in yet and feels threatened by me that I might bring him out.
