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Mixed signals from a new friend

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Bicurguy, Aug 18, 2016.

  1. Bicurguy

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    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    I am currently going through the struggle of figuring out a friends sexuality. To start, I am bisexual and I believe my friend is as well but may be deep in the closet.

    My friend is 17, he is a very attractive guy but is currently a virgin and has never been in a relationship. For how good looking he is, some people say that its odd.

    We recently became good friends roughly 6 months ago and see eachother almost everyday. The problem is, he gives off numerous gay vibes but acts very straight at other times. There is a bit of homophobia associated as well. When we hang out its always just us two. We smoke marijuana together so he usually acts like this when were high but still gives off vibes while sober.

    Reasons he could be bi/gay:
    -he has brushed his hand on my legs a few times
    -he commented on the bulge in my pants ("I can see your dick"), followed by "why you gotta do that". (Not sure what that means).
    -he continued to glance at my bulge multiple times throughout the night and at one point we watched porn together. I became erect and he kept looking at my boner and then looking at me to see if I noticed him looking.
    -when we wrestle, he does get aroused and if I look at his penis area he quickly covers it using closed fists or pulls his shirt down to hide his boner
    -he does talk in a gay voice at times but its rare
    -he frequently comments on his male friends about how "theyre so nice", etc.
    -He hugs me when we get drunk
    -we do sleep in the same bed so one night he pulled his shirt up and started rubbing his nipple, then he felt my abs
    -he makes sexual comments towards me like "its just me and you", etc
    -he humped me once
    -he eyes up my genital area a lot
    -he acts very feminine sometimes

    Reasons he could be straight:
    -always looking at pictures of girls
    -sometimes if I get too close to him he calls me gay
    -acts homophobic periodically

    We are both very touchy feely with eachother but the confusing part is, he enjoys it sometimes and hates it other times.ike I said..despite all the gay vibes, he acts very straight. Its like he wants to explore gay sex but then rebounds instantly. If we lay in my bed together, he will rub his legs up against mine for a few minutes but then if I do it to him he gets mad. Sometimes when we wrestle we just lay there on eachother for a minute but then he panics and says this is gay. He is almost hypacritical towards me as well. Anytime I give off a gay vibe he points it out as gay but then he goes and gives off that same vibe! Im wondering if he is in denial of his sexuality and isnt ready to accept it yet

    I can go on and on about more vibes and what not but this post is long enough. I sure hope someone can help me out. Basically he acts gay one minute and straight the next. I think he just isnt ready to give in yet and feels threatened by me that I might bring him out.