(UPDATE) Asking This Chick If She Likes Me.. Now I Feel Unsafe At Work.

I am sorry you have to deal with this, and it's even worse since it's your workplace! (*hug*) Can you go to HR or someone else at work and say you don't feel safe there right now? If you think she might actually do something maybe you could carry pepper spray or something? Either way, stop talking to Destiny and her girlfriend right now, anything you say will clearly just be turned against you and it will escalate the situation until people start taking sides at work. Which will make it a miserable place for both of you to be. Let them think whatever and just try your best to avoid her from now on, you did nothing wrong but there is no convincing either of them of that. If she talks to you about work related things answer with short, straight to the point answers and if she tries to talk about anything else just say you don't want to talk to her and to please leave you alone.

 

How old are you all? It seems like an awful lot of drama and like you don't work in a very professional environment at all.

Personally I am mostly for trying to keep work and private separate anyway but I think you should have taken the fact that she mentioned she had a gf (whether it was true or not is irrelevant really ) as the fact that she wasn't interested in you and move on, especially when you found out what she said was a lie.


It isn't really relevant why she chose to lie about dating Jasmine and stuff because it means this girl is up for playing games and it's NOT someone you want to date.

The both of you DRAGGED Jasmine into it and then you turned on her, out of all people, and called her a bitch. I would be pretty freaking furious if someone came to me to congratulate me on someone I don't date and then asked me for help/thoughts on the situation and told her exactly what I knew and thought and she chose to turn on me and call me a bitch because she obviously believes the other person over me (other person who happens to have lied to you already!) so I can see why she is upset ( not that it justifies threatening you though !)


In your situation there is NO proof that Jasmine lied. Destiny lied to you and told you she was dating Jasmine, how can you know she didn't tell Jasmine she was single and into you ? That girl lie and I wouldn't it doubt she would lie again to protect herself by calling everyone else but her a liar.

The two of you shouldn't have dragged Jasmine into it and I would personally apologize to her if I were you for insulting calling her mames. You asked for her help/opinion and she told you what she knew/felt. The anger, if there is some, should be directed at Destiny but those are you work colleagues and I would advice you to simply keep it professional from now on, this just isn't worth it.


If I were you I would just make amend with everyone and only have a professional relationship with all of them from now on.


Good luck OP !

 

This is not a script for a reality tv show right...? I'm sorry you are actually going through this. It's ridiculous and unprofessional and pretty messed up. I think you need to cut off personal contact with all these people and remain professional and friendly. Whatever the intention of Jasmine, she shouldn't have had to be involved in this in the first place, and I think you should apologize to her for being so mad at her. It's also not cool to just send screen captures of a conversation you had with someone to a third person. I know you were very confused, but you haven't been handling this very well. You get a lot of hearsay and you try to figure out what's the truth by gathering further hearsay. You need to have a mature calm conversation with these people and if they are still being immature, then you shouldn't get involved and move on with your life without them.