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ex coming over, need some advice please

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by atomic dorito, Sep 1, 2016.

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  1. atomic dorito

    atomic dorito
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    My ex gf and I are really good friends, she still really likes me but I don't really feel the same, she's coming over this weekend and I know she's gonna try to kiss/screw me. how do I decline her offer in a way that lets her down easy? iv'e tried before and it made her really upset and I don't wanna screw up our time to hang out. any tips or advice? :dry:
     
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  2. Anthemic

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    Tell her you're too afraid that it will ruin your great friendship, and that you just see her as a friend. If she gets upset over you declining her to be intimate with you, then she's disrespectful and probably just trying to manipulate you.

    I had to deal with this a lot when one of my friends fell in love with me. I was not attracted to her because she just wasn't my type. But she would kiss me and touch me inappropriately and I would let her because I would freeze up and feel bad about telling her no.
     
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  3. robclem21

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    If she can't handle it then just don't hang out. Not every breakup is meant to end up in a mutual friendship. Especially if this is more reason, some distance apart may be good.
     
    #3 robclem21, Sep 1, 2016
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