I feel stupid for asking this question...

You could always ask her :icon_wink it seems to me that a lot of girls prefer you to tell them in a straightforward and/or romantic way. But if you want to see how she feels, how much time she spends with you, conversations (girls tend to be flirty so that doesn't always tell you), any physical contact, etc. Just think about how you act when you have a crush.

 

Don't worry about asking! Everyone's got to find out somehow, right? People aren't exactly born with the knowledge.

To answer your question, I don't think there's a huge difference between how men and women flirt. Look out for physical contact, prolonged eye contact, and a lot of smiling. Some other indicators are leaning in towards you, and perhaps preening a bit/showing off their physical features - to use the most obvious examples, this could include fluttering eyelashes and hair twirling, although it won't always be as obvious and cheesy as that.

I mentioned physical contact, and some people are naturally physical beings. Watch how they act around other people - are they always throwing their arm around others, hugging people etc? If not, then touching you would be a pretty definitive sign, although it may come across as quite casual, i.e. brushing "dust" off your shoulder.

One big indicator is when you catch somebody watching your lips as you speak.

Hope this helped!

 

I agree with Gunsmoke. There really isn't much of a difference.