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Forbidden Love

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by MrWheelz, Nov 16, 2016.

  1. MrWheelz

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    Long story short, I have a crush on a guy who was really flirty with me a couple years ago. At the time he had a girlfriend who just wasn't good to him or for him. Fast forward 2 years and he's got a new girlfriend. We are still friends and I've actually seen him more recently than every before. In case you haven't figured it out, he's bi and I am gay. I can't seem to shake these feelings I have for him. I know he's much happier now and I don't want to get in the way of that. How do I deal with these feelings?!
     
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    Are you out to him? Have you told him about your feelings?

    If he's taken, what do you think keeps fueling your feelings for him?
     
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    Yes I'm out to him. I just find him really attractive in more ways than one.
     
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    Does he know you like him more than a friend?
     
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    Since you're out to him and he knows you're attracted to him, and he didn't initiate anything with you while in between girlfriends, I would suggest that he isn't attracted to you. Your question, "How do I deal with these feelings?" is a hard one and you have few options.

    You need to accept that you will likely never have a relationship with him, and the only question becomes whether you can stand being no more than friends with him.

    If you are comfortable enough with him, perhaps you could casually ask him if he would ever consider dating you? His answer could tell you whether there is even the potential for a relationship with him.

    Take care. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
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    I have a simple rule that works well, just ask when you're unsure. The big thing here is that the term bisexual can mean a lot of different things. I'm a married man who loves his wife but also enjoys sex with men. Never have really dated men, and dont know that I ever will or want to do so.