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Is he bipolar or gay?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by CGGuy, Jan 5, 2017.

  1. CGGuy

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    Since the NYE and I am thinking how everything can change and every moment can make a turnover and eventually crash in your face.

    To explain this, so I have had this really religious friend at school he is just giving me sign every now and then, he keeps hugging me, he keeps flirting me, and -not stereotyping- but his gestures are obviously very noticeable. He even lately started changing to being open minded after I left him when he made some harsh comments about my thoughts and how devious it is, now its like he rethought everything because I told him one day you will figure that what you're following is devious.

    So at the NYE I said my resolution will be to start a fresh start and get answers for all my curiosity so I messaged him telling him everything, from the moment I first saw him till the day I fell in love with him (Secret Facebook Conversation) in case he gets afraid to admit anything, surprisingly, he said he loved me too, and he just want to be with me from day one and all he could've wished for is us staying together, I almost cried, I jumped from happiness and then he went like do you want to kiss me and we kept talking until he went off a couple of hours before the countdown and then minutes before 2017 started he said in the normal conversation, "BTW I am not gay".

    And I was confused, 2017 has started and it couldn't suck more, like what did we just have right now? So I left him a day until he messaged me a video saying about "Pigeons" Pigeons and Penis are the same word in Arabic, so he then said wanna see my pigeon meaning his penis, then he started talking and talking as if it was really a pigeon. Then I was like time to end this discussion and said, well does your pigeon swing to me? He said it likes you, It always flys when it sees you -cringy-, and then went back about his pigeon, until he even masturbated -not sure gay porn or straight- but just he did, and yeah he referred to masturbating as "Fireworks".

    So yesterday night, I wanted to text him because he has been avoiding me at the school like, he greets me, looks me in the eye, blushes, smiles and then he goes away and acts as if he didn't see me. So, I wanted to say to him why would he do it, until I realized that I got blocked!!

    I got no more patience and went to him today morning and said, why would you block me, it means two things you either hate me or I am unpleasant to talk to. I was waving and making gestures, he stuttered at me for moments and said, your gestures are just...just... I said what? Gayish? He said no no I love it. And then I was like then why you block me, he said I don't want to be distracted by you, then he said you know what, you are drifting to me into deviousness because you made me masturbate. And I am like but you said you LOVED ME, he was like what did you mean by it like gay love? or friends love? I looked at him sighing, friends... Forgetting everything he wrote me.
    I said to him either way, being gay is no shame and he was like embarrassed of it. Then I went home shattered because I don't get it!

    He tells me he loves me and when I see him he says it was brotherly meant, but ok let it pass, what about saying his penis flys when I am next to him, or that he wants to kiss me! And when I see him all he says is being gay is wrong and what he meant was as friends! I am tired of it and I'm so sorry its long, but I am depressed about it and can't get it out of my mind... :\ Can someone figure what he is or at least what am I or what to do? It's like mind games that are in a constant mystery
     
  2. Quantumreality

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    Hey CGGuy,

    Based on your post it seem like he REALLY likes you as a friend. It's not at all clear that he loves you as a potential boyfriend. It seems almost equally likely at this point that he's straight and totally enjoys (enjoyed) your friendship or that he is still deeply in the closet and unwilling to admit his boyfriend-type love for you. The later seems a bit more likely given how he blocked you. It kind of seems like he chickened out and panicked when you admitted your true feelings for him.

    Just my thoughts.:slight_smile:
     
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    Hey CGGuy,

    My gut is that he secretly likes you as more than a friend but is afraid to be your BF. A likely explanation stems from the fact that he is really religious; either he is afraid of his parents reaction or he is conflicted between his religious beliefs and what his pigeon is telling him. You can try to talk to him and see if this is what is holding him back. Otherwise you might want to date another boy who is less religious and more accepting of his sexuality. As you know it's not easy being LGBT in your country and your generation is more open about it than previous generations.
     
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    I once read that if someone is sending mixed signals it usually means that they don't know what they want. I'm guessing that's the case here. It sounds like he likes you but isn't ready to accept himself as gay.
     
  5. CGGuy

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    Possible, but why would he tell me all that on a secret conversation and get me all excited or telling that he gets an erection by me makes no sense. No straight friend would say it to the other... But you may be right.

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    It's like I am 100% sure, but he meets the religion teacher in our school almost every day discussing the things I tell him about, which is like a total brainwash session, and the religion teacher hates me much since I am the one spreading the "perversity & deception" I am sure he trash talks me. Like, the conflict is massive, when he is next to me he is ok with everything to the level of talking about alcohol which is pretty forbidden. But then when he is around people he would be so surprised and shocked. Anyway, I really hope my generation is accepting as you say, because everyone is pretty homophobic in my school but still, beheadings aren't allowed, lol.
     
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    This could be the case, or, he is just playing around with you. Making you someone he can manipulate and then justify his religious beliefs, seeing as he meets that counselor, etc. Maybe this is a little out there, but it just came to me as a thought.

    And going by your post title, no, I wouldn't call him bipolar. That would be a whole other kettle of fish. :icon_wink

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