First off , he is absoutely amazing other then this issue . But I desperately need advice , my sex drive is SOO much higher then his I can never be intimate , he always tells me next [insert day ] or [insert time] , he is depressed due to several life changes most postive yet stressful but I digress , but he never touches me anymore I even dropped weight , gained more muscle and dressed better all in attempt to start his engine but its not there , he always doesnt feel well , ive been so deprived that masturbation has no affect on me that sex takes over my thoughts almost all day and in my dreams , and ive tried to justify myself to him that when he does the deed it allviates all these things , but he has no interest in handjobs , oral , and weve never has sex but thats because im to large for him (diffrent subject for diffrent day ) , he doesnt masturbate or anything unless hes with me and conditions are right (about once every other month ) and he satsifies my needs about twice a month ...ive tried to speak out and tell him that i feel guilty for fantazing about other guys in dreams and during masturbation even though its just porn and dreams I dont like it and he doenst act like he cares that much , I need help ! Thank you if anything needs to be cleared up let me know
How long have you guys been together? What personal issues is he having and ads those issues temporary in nature? Having compatible sex drives, or at least open communication between each other to the extent there are differences, is extremely important to a successful relationship. What would he say to why there is a mismatch?
Please try to use complete sentences because a giant run-on sentence is hard to read. Have you ever had sex with him? What do you mean by he satisfies your needs? Has he tried going to a professional counselor about the depression? Sometimes depression can artificially decrease a person's sex drive. I agree that you need to be clearer on your desires (and ask him why he doesn't seem to care). If you can't resolve this issue, then you must ask yourself whether you can be satisfied or need to move on.
First of all... Please try to use some grammar here. It's very difficult to just read one run-on. I personally would talk to the guy and ask him what's wrong. Maybe he doesn't feel very sexual at all - he could have low testosterone. I know that I had that issue with my ex, and I got it fixed. The fact that you're fantasizing about others and trying so hard to impress him all for sexual reasons is not good. Try asking him about his depression and maybe you might have to see a counselor about this one. Hope you get things figured out. Honestly, you might have to find someone else who more closely fits your need for sexual relations - don't take that in a wrong way.
