I want to ask a guy out tomorrow, but I fear rejection

Hey gaynerd64,

I would recommend that you go ahead and ask him. If you wait, you’ll just be hanging in limbo (emotionally) until you get some resolution. Since you know that he’s Bi, you also know that he won’t reject you out-of-hand simply because you are a guy. You may or may not be someone he’s interested in dating, but if you don’t take a chance, you have absolutely no possibility of dating this guy that you are crushing on.

Open communication is a key to any relationship. So, if you don't talk to him about your feelings for him/your intentions, you really have no basis to get yourself emotionally involved with him.

The flip side, of course, is “what if he says ‘no’.” Honestly, you have no control over that, but the longer that you pine away for him without knowing one way or the other, the harder it is likely to hit you if he says ‘no.’ Also, if there is a chance that he might say ‘yes’, the longer you wait, the greater the possibility that he might get another bf or a gf, which would shut down any possibility for you, even if it turned out the he really might like you ‘that way.’

Just some thoughts.

 

^ what Quantum said.

Stop asking yourself the "what if" question and just go for it! If it doesn't work out, too bad. If it works, hurray! You can't live your life worrying over "what if" questions because that'll only make you miserable.

 

What Quantum said.

You could just ask him out for coffee as a friend and then on your "date" ask if he wants to be more than friends.