Another story about a straight guy....

Ok. After taking a few shots, I decided to post another thread in about three years. I was debating whether or not I should post this since there are so many stories just like mine...
But I just need to vent and here it goes.

I met a guy few months ago. I met him at a graduate student-get-together in Sept. During that meeting, I did not have any interest in this guy. He was not that good looking, did not talk to him, and was not interested in him.

Well, people who came to the meeting decided to keep the meeting going and make it a weekly thing. So I have been going to the meeting, or hang out thing. We would just eat dinner and play games or whatever.

One night, I dropped this guy at his place. But before I dropped him off at his place, we went to get a pack of beers. We drank some at his place while talking. Since he is an international student, he said he would become lonely sometimes and would love to hang out with me often. I was okay with that. He was a nice, very kind, and only a year older than me.

Since that night, we would hang out almost every single day. We would cook lunch and dinner together. I would come back from my lab early so that I can have lunch with him and he knows that. He would call me sometimes or even text me after his classes to see if I have some time to squeeze lunch or dinner with him. We hung out so much that I would know what kind of things are located in his apartment.

One night, I spent a night at his place. I went to his place to help him with his homework since English is his second language. Well, English is my second language as well.
The time went by very fast and it was after 12AM. I helped him with his homework and afterwards, we drank a bit. He took out an air mattress and let me sleep on it. It was a very fun night.

Things got very confusing for me since November. He would talk to me, sometimes, as if I am a kid. I asked him twice why he would talk to me like he is talking to a kid, and his responses were, "Because you are cute" and "Because I like you~."

Before Christmas, I asked him what he wanted, and he, without any hesitation, said, "You." I was very startled and just stared at him for a few seconds. He asked me if my heart was pounding fast and I did tell him yes. Then he asked me, "What do you want for Christmas? Me?" I just laughed and said, "What the heck~" I did not know how to respond...

On one of the get-together-night for the graduate students, he called me and asked me if I was going. I told him I was not going to go because I was tired. Then he asked me, "You would not go even if I go?" When I told him no, his voice was sounded very disappointed.

The graduate students decided to go bowl one night. But there was an hour of closing (getting ready for this late night event at the bowling alley so they closed all the lanes) so I was about to go home. Or I was debating whether or not I should go home. He asked me what I was going to do. I asked him what he wanted to do. He answered my question by saying, "I will go wherever you go." and he actually did follow me around that night.

One day, he asked me to help him with his assignment. I went to his place, but since I only had two-three hour of sleep, I was very tired. When I told him about it, he suggested me sleeping in his bed. I did sleep in his bed He told me though that he does not like people sleeping or getting into his bed since it is his private place. I understand that because I do not like it when people get into my bed. I felt very special.

One night, when we were having dinner, he said to me, "Girls are very important for boys. And you are important to me as much as girls are important to boys." So I guess I am special for him... but I do not think I am special in a way that I want to be

When he talks to me, sometimes, he would put his hand on my thigh. But in our culture, that is very not common for males to do that. (We both are from the same country to add haha)

During winter break, I went home to visit my family again. He complained that I am leaving him alone in the US for a month.

When we hang out and goof around, he would smack my butt sometimes. He even said that my butt is his toy.... -.-

BUT!!!!! BUT!!!!!!! He has a girlfriend back in our country. So I do not what this is...

I just really wanted to talk to someone about him and this situation. It started to kill me inside to think that I will never be someone he would like.





For those of you who read to the end, thank you so much.

 

Hello Gravity,
Thank you for reading my post.

I have not told him how I feel about him. I have said things like "You are very nice." "Very kind." And a few times, I sent him texts to see if it is alright to come over to his place to hang out. And he would respond "yes, but why are you coming to me when I am busy with homework? hahaha"

We went for a grocery shopping last week. He accidentally pumped his basket into my butt. I jokingly said, "Ow it hurts...." and he rubbed my butt as he was apologizing. And I joked, "This is your way touching butts?" and he said, "I am not gay."



I do not know if telling him how I feel about him is a good method. He is very Christian and I feel like there could be some kind of pressure like what you have mentioned.
I am scared that if I tell him, then I might lose a friend

 

I think I am at a point where I kind of not care. For a few days, I did not contact him. I am trying to move on, but still keep the friendship. But it is so hard... What makes me sad is that for three days that I have not contacted him, he did not even care to send a single text to ask about how I was doing :/

I am supposed to hang out with him this Wed. I will see what other things he does

 

Resu, thank you for your post.
It does make hard for me to be around him sometimes, but I keep tell myself that I do not want anything more than just friends.

 

At first, I had no interest other than just having some time to spend together. And now, I think I am wanting more from him. I know I shouldn't. I cannot expect him to like me back the way I like him. If there is a possibility that he feels the same about me, then maybe I would go for it. But I wouldn't when I do not know for sure.

 

You are going through the same situation at the moment? I should read your post if you have one posted!

Maybe he is finally finding out who he is.

 

photoguy93, thank you for your post. Yes, I can agree with what you have said about guys being "interested," without liking someone. A number of people (guys) I have dealt with before have done so many things and yet define themselves as "straight." But when I tell my friends about what they have done, all of my friends said, "That is so gay." Could be that these guys were trying to find out who they are.