[Need Advice] We're pretty much dating but... we're not?

I'm not exactly good at telling stories, but I know they should at least start with a beginning.

I met this guy, whom I shall call Chris, at university about a year ago. We only met once a week for that particular class, but I can honestly say that every time we did collide, we would have some of the best conversations of my entire life. My social life is generally quite under stimulating due to my personality which leaves me constantly longing for deep and meaningful conversation. Needless to say, Chris shone through my life like a lighthouse. He is one of the most thoughtful and intellectual people I know and he's made these last few months some of the greatest they've ever been. It's probably also unsurprising that I have developed feelings for this person.

As soon as that semester was over, we would continue to meet up every now and then. The meetups were casual, but we still had these wonderful conversations. One day he asked me questions about my sexuality, for which I told him I was asexual and not particularly interested in relationships. What I neglected to tell him was that my romantic attractions are pretty much exclusively male. Furthermore, I do not know what his sexuality is at all. Because I am so weird, I generally just avoid that topic as much as possible and I end up never bothering to find out. For what its worth though, my gaydar is pretty accurate and he definitely sets it off.

These last few months have been different though. Our meetups have been once a week and in settings which I would say are more for dates, usually dinner at a nice restaurant, followed by a movie/stroll and then coffee afterwards. The air feels like it has changed towards something more intimate and it's doing my head in a little. Furthermore, he asked me to travel overseas with him 2 weeks ago (just the two of us) and I agreed. I am actually looking quite forward to it.

In any case, I am pretty much in love with this person. What prevents me from "officially" moving this forward is my fear of losing him and my feelings of contentedness with just staying where we are. I also don't have much of a history with dating because of my asexuality and I am quite unsure of how things will turn out if we were to move onto the next level. I suppose that is an issue for "the future" but it does hinder my willingness to explore whatever this is further.

I suppose I am just seeking advice about how I should go about clarifying this situation. Should I just come out and confess? Should I wait? I don't know guys, I need help :bang:

 

Firstly thank you for your advice. It really did encourage me to make a move and figure out whatever it is that we are. I was over thinking it and I really just needed to come clean with my own feelings.

We went on our normal weekly "date" and I thought I had the courage to raise the issue during it, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. At the end of the date, he invited me to come inside and I decided at that moment to leave it be. The drive home was pretty painful. I desperately wanted to turn around and just have the talk. I ended up pulling up on the side of the road and messaged him that we should talk, and he said we would do it tomorrow.

I feel like an idiot, proud and relieved all at once now. I'm nervous and fearful about whats to come. At the end of it all though, I think I have made the right move... I think. This is all so surreal and out of character for me, so I guess I'm rather thankful I have a day to think it over.

I'm experiencing so many emotions right now it's kind of overwhelming. If anyone out there has some words of support, I'd appreciate it greatly.