My girlfriend and I are going on 3 years together now. She's 21 and I'm 19. We attended a party together a couple days today with our friends where we played a drinking game that involved kissing and making out with other people. She seemed okay during the game, and we all were having fun. However, today she mentioned that I seemed like I was enjoying myself too much when I was kissing other people. I told her that kissing was fun, but I didn't have a romantic inclination towards them, so it didn't mean anything; kissing her was different because I love her. She didn't accept this answer as being reasonable and told me to leave her alone. I told her I wouldn't participate in those kinds of games if she didn't want me to; she just needed to tell me. She said "whatever" and she's not talking to me now. I don't really know what to do now. I feel upset that she's not talking to me and that I made her angry and jealous and upset. But if the situations were switched around I know I wouldn't have a problem with it; she was kissing people at the party too and I was enjoying watching her. Any help would be appreciated for when she cools down and we talk about it again.
If it was merely a game where you kiss other people, and she was watching. Then she should've stopped and told you she was uncomfortable with it - for her to turn around and act like that is quite unfair. However, I believe you should've maybe asked her if she was comfortable before participating in it. This is what I would do in your position: I would apologize about participating in that game before addressing whether she was comfortable with it, I would then ask for an apology in return for the way she behaved as it was quite unfair. Good luck!
