Can you have a loving caring boyfriend without the sex part? Are there guys that don't have sex with there partner and are happy together forever? They might touch or do things romantically at times but no sex? Or is sex required to have a boyfriend? Meaning no way around it.
without romance and intimacy then it's just platonic (with some occasional flirtation). so it's possible that your "boyfriend" is just your "boy friend."
The question that comes up for me is, what is it that is motivating the desire to have a loving relationship without sex? Have you had bad experiences in the past? Are you afraid? Is the idea of sex uncomfortable? Or something else? I would not assume this is an asexual situation first. So the more you are comfortable sharing about what's motivating the question, the better responses you'll get.
Not necessarily. If that were the case, it would be impossible to have a friend with benefits, and all friends with benefits are technically boyfriends/relationships in disguise. Unfortunately, there's a bit of a double standard regarding the two.
but that's the thing, when you breach that threshold, it's no longer just platonic. there's intimacy. as you said, it's a relationship in disguise. in the thread starter's case, they haven't gone beyond that threshold. hence, leading him to question their status. unless they're saving themselves for marriage, without that clear definition, that question will pop up frequently.
Well Kent says I am not the type that wants sex and we haven't had sex for a while and was wondering why and then yesterday I saw him jacking off while he was watching porn and I said honey we could of had sex and he said no that's fine. I thought it was strange but if he doesn't want sex then it's fine but then later when I took him home while I was driving that's why I asked him are you sure you didn't want sex and he said I do but he learned I am not the type that wants sex but I thought he said he didn't want sex. But strange thing is that he was jacking off by himself in my room was confusing me when I was playing Doom on my PS4 in the other room. I told him I did want sex with you the whole time and was wondering how come you didn't have sex for 2 weeks so far but seemed like he doesn't want sex but he loves me very much since his really working hard and being more romantic with me. He even says that he is doing his best to make us become great boyfriends. As of now we are not boyfriends yet but he really loves me a lot and is doing his best to make us work out. I' am also trying to adjust to. We were once together for almost 2 years but broke up mainly due to Kent living in Crossroads and getting confused about himself but he is doing a lot better and things are going well. Just the sex part I don't understand. We had sex few times last month but all of the sudden was wondering but we didn't for 2 weeks and the way he said sounds like he doesn't want sex. But just wondered can you have a great boyfriend without sex? Since seems like he is saying I am the type that doesn't want sex? He also seems like his the same also since he still loves me a lot and I can see by his actions.
I think you're asking the wrong question here. You're wondering why isn't he having sex with you, not whether or not you can have a great boyfriend without the sex. Yes you can have a great partner without sex, but this isn't what we're talking about here. It's quite obvious that your boyfriend wants to have sex (he's jerking off in his own time), but it sounds like he's using you as an excuse NOT to have sex with you. I'm not sure what he means when when he says "you aren't the type to have sex". That sounds very odd if you ask me. Talk to him about it.
Ya I found out that since I don't have big enough penis he isn't that pleased. But maybe we can work things out somehow since I can't do anything about that. I have a 5.5 inch cut and he likes around 7in or so like his. He says it feels better with bigger penis in him. But can you still be boyfriends for life even if this issue happens? Can normally things be worked out and do different type of sex like he might get use to me sucking him or rimming etc? Or usually even if we love each other in time it will fail due to this issue. You guys did say that you can have a perfect boyfriend without sex so I assume it can be done. Also I knew it was strange that he few times he got in front of me and pushed his but against me with his clothes on since we weren't naked and says "I know you want it" something was telling me he wanted sex but he never asked anymore for little over 2 weeks. But if couples can be together without sex maybe it will work out.
I still need to know what you guys think about if our relationship can go on in the future even with this problem and normally couples can figure something else to do when having sex.
I talked to my best friend Chris and he said since Kent loves to play video games with me and enjoys being with me often he has a hard time believing Kent will all of the sudden drop the bomb and forget about me so he might end up accepting how I' am but might take time but might accept how I am and maybe instead of my doing the top thing we can have oral sex. But that's what I' am hoping but don't know what the end results. All I know is that he loves me but just there are things that he wants that are different than what I want or something's can't change. But who knows since at the shelter home his living at he made new friends there and maybe someone there he might end up loving more than me. I don't think that will happen after how much I cared about him and helped through out his life with money, food and finding a place for him to live, etc. He is very thankful for all the stuff I don't for him he says. After all he says "if it happens it happens" meaning if he feels and knows I' am the right guy then he will commit to me and be my boyfriend. He just doesn't want to jump the gun like he did with us before for some reason even his known me for little over 2 years now. But what do you guys think? Thank you for your support so far btw.
