So, I've had some insane girl issues in the past months. I've been in love with a girl for awhile, and when I admitted my feelings she rejected me, and we've basically been strangers since. I've cried and suffered over thoughts of her, and it didn't seem like I would ever be able to get over her. I probably never will be 100%, but I am being drawn to another gril who has quickly become a friend after she came to the schools small GSA meeting. At the moment, my biggest issue is figuring her out. I can't tell if she is queer, despite having strong gaydar developing. I've gotten very mixed signals and I need some help. I've seen her wear overalls, she is a passionate feminist, and plays golf. GOLF. But she is also extremely feminine, wears dresses and skirts all the time, and is a cheerleader at my school. When she was at the GSA meeting, she sat next to me and barely spoke to anyone else. Maybe because I was one of the few people she recognized, but I don't really know. We talk almost every morning now at school, and I can't tell if she smiles at me in the same way as she does with everyone else. Social media stalking has not helped a single bit, and I don't want to ask if she's queer directly in fear of scaring her off. I still want to be her friend if she isn't.
Yep me too. I'm trying to figure out if the girl I like could possibly into me. She smiles at me when we cross each other's pass but I really can't tell. And, she is 1 year older so I'm not expecting anything but still I can't get her out of my head.
Whoever handed out the gaydar genes skipped me and so I automatically assume every woman is straight until proven otherwise. The only thing I can suggest is to somehow casually bring up the subject of gay people etc (can you tell I suck at socialising) and gauge how she reacts
I'd say, just be friendly, start conversations, and see if you become friends. As you become more familiar, you could ask what she likes about the GSA, maybe what made her decide to join... You'll probably figure it out along the way, naturally.
