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Is my friend gay and in love with me?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Montegracia, Mar 31, 2017.

  1. Montegracia

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    I have a friend and for a few months i've been wondering can he be gay?

    1. He doesn't talk about girls at all. When I ask him in which girl he's into he never answers. It feels like he doesn't want to tell that or he's just unable to say that. How he is declaring, he's never watched any "videos for adults" and anything in common with woman's body. (Although i saw some pictures from his instagram follows). Just like he isn't interested in female body.
    This school year he's started calling me gay, faggot (what is very normal expression for homosexuals in my country) as the only one in the whole school. He freaked out about homosexuality and he's saying that most of the time. In my opinion it might mean more, like he wants me to get out of the closet or he just relieves anger with himself for being gay. On the other hand when I start to accuse him for being gay, he's getting very angry. Here's some more evidences to back up my theory.

    2. He's got wide knowledge about anal sex. He knows that frequent sex with partner who's got big (u know what) can result in problems with keeping faeces. He explained me how to do correct enema. He was talking about vibrators, dildos and how to attach them to the wall. When I asked him form where this wide knowledge came from he didn't answer for dozen or so seconds and he acted like he didn't hear me. Of course, we cannot forget about his remarks about lubricants.
    He suggested that I jerk off watching his photos and when we were talking about girls that we will invite for Prom in nineth grade (we're 15) he said that i want to invite him, for sure. Then, he responded: "Luckily I like girls, I'm not gay like you". I'm not sure does it seem to be that bad option for him. He was opening the door for me once. :rolleyes:

    3. Anyway, coming back to sex, he always talks only about anal sex. Sometimes he stars to act like he's doing it, looking at me, of course. Also, he acts facials on me and my friends.
    Once upon the time he confessed about his penis size and that he's got hair in some... interesting places. A few month ago we were making Christmas predictions for school project together. We figured out love predictions, who whom will be with who, on the base of name. As he said:
    " If (my name) drew the boy, he would come out to him and they will become boyfriends." I will never forget this arcane look he gave me that time. A month ago he was in my house and he started taking about gays (not surprising). He said.
    He: Kneel down in front of your boyfriend.
    I: Do you know what you've just said?
    (Silence. He pretended to not understand my questions. Then, he was saying that "he didn't say anythig like that).
    2 weeks later he called me his boyfriend on religion education lesson and denying the fact began again.
    There's one girl who is in love with me and she invites me to go somewhere with her. He doesn't like her because of that and he discourages her. That i'm not the right boy for her etc. (I'm not in love with her but it's difficult to be one of the most handsome guys in the school without girlfriend. Luckily we aren't together yet.)

    4. Another evidences:
    He's interested in fashion. He knows more marks than normal girl. He wears pink T-shirts during PE lessons. He wants my mum to like him. He's interested in me. He wants to know my phone contacts, the people I chat with on facebook. Once, we were watching the TV programme, the date in the bed. When the girl was going to do striptease he didn't seem very interested in it. But when good-looking, muscular man in underwear was doing the same thing he said : "Fucking awesome". Yesterday, we were watching muscle transformation on YT. What got his attention? The guy's penis.
    Some time ago we were sitting behind our two friends (male and female). I wanted my male friend to hug his female friend so I showed him how to do this on my friend. He didn't react well and called me faggot again. But when he was fighting with my friend in my bedroom it was looking like softporn. Including ass grabbing, doing sex positions etc. However, he says that he doesn't like gays, he's against them etc. Normal homophobic person. I've read that gays in the closet sometimes are homophobic.

    5. What do you think? Is he gay? How can I help him to come out (to me). I tell him that if he will say that i won't beat and bully him like normal people in my county. Maybe he's into me?

    I'm sorry for grammar mistakes, English isn't my mother tounge.
     
  2. cocobean

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    No one can say if he is gay or not, except him. In terms of point 4, I think that being into fashion is irrelevant. I know plenty of straight men who are into fashion, or wear pink. And in terms of point 5, if he is gay, he will come out to you if and when he is ready. You can not make him come out to you, or anyone else, and if he is gay he has to feel able to come out when he chooses to. All you can do is be there for him if he does