Has anyone had to deal with a parent who won't accept you being trans and wanting to transition? I came out to my parents around 6 months ago and my mum didn't handle it very well. Now, if I try to make any changes in my life such as having a feminine name or changing wardrobe, my mum will throw a week-long hissy fit and threaten to go back to South Korea (Where she grew up.) To avoid my mum having these spells I just shut up and pretend that I'm not trans. Coming out to my parents has made literally zero difference to my life as our whole family just lives like before I had come out. I really want to begin transitioning socially but I don't want to incur the wrath of my mum. She barely let my school counselor send a referral for me to be seen by a clinic that specialises in gender. So, I'm not really sure what to do. I'm stuck between not wanting to upset my mum and screw my family, and wanting to become the person who I want to be. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks for any replies, ~Kimberly x
We have the very same problems. I wrote about it before on another site and been told I to wait and slowly try to make her accept it. And like the saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink.". If your mother does not choose to drink (accept) the water you are serving then just leave it on the table and in hopes as you keep leaving a fresh glass for her maybe some day she will get thirsty enough to see you in the light you portray not in the one she is shining upon you. I guess we just have to hope and keep trying.
Know what is more important for your now and what is more important for you later; and what is more important in general. That is an advice that basically didn't help you at all as that is basically your question; just simplified. Sometimes that can help, I have no true, and there may be no true "Right" advice, but getting you to think about it in a simpler fashion may help you. (It is how I tend to try to solve situations.)
