Uncomfortable w/ Same Sex PDA. HELP!

From what i can tell by reading this, you don't feel comfortable showing affection with your girlfriend out in public. What I would do if I was in your position is I would look for the source of what causes you to feel this way. Have you ever judged others for showing pda, have your friends ever said something negative about the LGBT community, or maybe it could even be because of your mother. You said she doesn't believe in bisexuality. Do you think you could be ashamed of who you are because of your mother so you try to hide it in public. These are all things you need to think about and from there you can try to overcome it. My advice would be to to be yourself and if you love her don't be afraid to show it.

 

I am also unfortable at showing PDA, but I've always had issues with self esteem and anxiety. I always feel like people are watching me, and that feeling doesn't always feel good.

I do have the fear that someone is going to say something to me in public (something negative obviously), or attempt to show physical violence to me when I'm with my boyfriend. I'm still trying to be more comfortable showing PDA with my bf, but he's also a shy person in general so it's something we both struggle with.

Granted, ever since we've been together, I've been showing more PDA spontaneously without thinking about my surroundings and what people might say. So there's been improvement for sure, and that's always a positive thing

 

Some people just aren't PDA fans in general. I would feel uncomfortable with it even if I was straight and dating the opposite sex just due to my private nature.

If you feel differently about it depending on gender, then you may need to analyze yourself more. If everyone is accepting, there is no reason to fear any violent reactions.

 

What about when you're away from the people you know? Like if you're out and about? Do you mind it as much if nobody around you knows you? Maybe you could do little bits of it where you're comfortable until it gradually becomes comfortable everywhere.

 

It might be because you're afraid of other people's judgement or potentially negative/aggressive reactions?
Like when you're with your friends you know you can trust them and they won't judge you for being affectionate with your girlfriend, but if you're in public you don't know how people are going to react so it causes more discomfort.

Even if you live in an accepting environment, it doesn't completely shield you from societal homophobia, which could be putting pressure on you or causing you to feel ashamed or unsafe.

The most important I think, besides pinpointing the reasons you're uncomfortable with PDA, is discussing this honestly with your girlfriend. Have you told her what you've tod us? I'm sure she would be understanding, and even reassured​ if you did!
I have no relationship experience so take my advice with a grain of salt but having an open conversation about your boundaries and feelings regarding this situation would probably help at least with the distance it seems to have put between you.

Don't beat yourself up. If I understood correctly she's the first girl you've ever been in a a relationship with so it's pretty new to you. Like Really said, maybe you can try a gradual approach. Baby steps and all that

 

Ok, gotta ask... What is PDA in this instance? I know it to mean Personal Digital Assistant.

 

Have you told her this? It's probably good to say something, and to say that you wish you could get more comfortable with it. That second part is important, otherwise it sounds like you're laying down an unchangeable rule, which if I were here would bum me out.

Also what other posters have said: it's early. Things change. People grow.

@akari: PDA = Public Display of Affection