whenever my family sees a gay person, they make fun of them. i get so mad. i need to find a way to make them stop without seeming gay myself. advice?
If that were to happen to me, I'd say 'Wow, that sucks.' Whenever they make a remark. Next time that happens, just ask why they make fun of them. If they start accusing, play it off as simple curiosity.
I have the same problem in my family. I just don't see the reason why they have a need to do so.. It makes me think my family's a bunch of hypocrits.
Iowa's advice is good. Back when I was in the closet, my family made homophobic remarks all the time. But now that I'm out, my family is a lot more conscious of what they say and pretty much only make fun of gay people that are asking to be laughed at: [YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7moGlHRNi8[/YOUTUBE] Case in point: They think this movie is hilarious. I'm sure it has whole new comedic layers now. Sometimes I act campy just to make my dad laugh. Once people find out they have a gay person in the family, they often change their tune and avoid hurtful remarks. I feel like my dad subtlely teases me about being gay all the time, but my mom is still shell-shocked about me coming out and her discomfort keeps her from finding anything humorous about it. With my dad, it seems almost like a case of, "I can tease you for being gay all I want, but if anyone else did it, I would kick their teeth in." How do they make fun of gay people Io? Do they have a sense of humor about it, or are they disgusted/contemptuous? If you give us some examples, maybe we can give you some ideas for witty retorts. I'm pretty sure it's a prerequisite that we know at least a couple. :lol:
