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A crush on a close friend...

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Justapony, Nov 20, 2012.

  1. Justapony

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    I am a lesbian and I have a crush on a close friend of mine, whenever I see her my heart skips a beat and I stutter a lot talking to her, although she just thinks thats because I am very socially awkward. I trust her more than any one else, but I have trust issues and I would never find myself able to tell her I am lesbian... but like I said I have a huge crush on her, but I know she is straight cause she has an enormous crush on this genius star athlete/musician who lives next door to her, and that makes me feel really jealous, and upset because I am not very smart... I don't think it would be easy for me to get over her, I have tried, but since I am socially awkward I don't do much or talk to anyone but close friends, and I just wish I knew what I could do about it...
     
  2. NikkiPardus

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    Sometimes, there isn't much you can do about it. It might be best to start getting to know women in your area who are attracted to other women, it gives you a chance to be really happy and satisfied without the pain and frustrations of crushing on someone who doesn't share those feelings. I don't know your age or anything, but I assume you are in highschool. try to attend an lgbtqqa group that functions through your school or in the area. if there isn't a group already, fight your hardest to start one because you could have the chance to really make a difference in other peoples lives as well as your own :33
     
  3. Justapony

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    Thats a good idea, I guess I should try that... but I'm a bit shy, that might be hard...
     
  4. pinklov3ly

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    If you're 18+ you can try joining dating site. I'm shy too, but I force myself to talk to women, what if I never see them again? I can at least try and fail than never try at all. And I've gotten pretty good at talking to women, I simply give them a compliment then ask them if they are into women. I have piercings, so it's easier to talk to girls who have piercings. We already have a common known interest and then I proceed to talk to her about other things. It's not easy, I know, but it took years of practice :slight_smile:

    Perhaps, you should come out to your friend, but I wouldn't tell her about the feelings that you have for her.
     
    #4 pinklov3ly, Nov 20, 2012
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