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So confused. is he gay, bi or straight and does he like me... UGHH!!

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  1. nostreborem

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    Firstly this is my first post so yeah it probably needs more description in it.
    Okay here is the deal, i've got a uber-crush my best friend of 9-10 years, i've had it for about a year or two so i know its not a phase, we're real close and we often muck around but sometimes he goes a step further (seductively talks, touches my bum) and then he'll just stop and continue normally, also sometimes he shows me his abs, i love it when he does that cos he's hot but i hate it cos all i can think of is licking his abs... anyway i can't stop thinking about him i just wanna hold him and kiss him(and other stuff:icon_redf) i mean it was my birthday tonight, me, my twin, my mum, my crush and his family, went to a restaurant and all the time he kept huggin me and flirtin with me he even was brushing is hands on my hands and my knee(he was sitting next to me) i never see him act this way to any other guy before. i cant tell what he is trying to send across or if he's just mucking around cos if he's just mucking around i dont want to ruin our friendship, but if i=he isnt then omg please!!....:help: :confused:
     
    #1 nostreborem, Nov 22, 2012
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    i don't know, i can't say either - he could be just joking around, the way you do with people you know well and like. have you tried showing him you like him, like moving close to him, touching him etc?
     
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    I can be hard to say over a thread post, first because these signs can be pretty ambiguous even at first hand, and also because when we hope that someone is interested in us, it makes it easier to interpret what they do as confirming that hope.

    Here's a question for you. Are you out to him? Your profile says you're out to your sister - how did that go? Do you think your friend will have a good response? You don't even need to tell him you like him - just put that information out there and it might clarify things a lot (for example, if he knows you're gay, and that you might be more interested in his abs than he thought, he might be less willing to show them off if he's not gay). Or, at the very least, it will give you a better idea of what to do next.
     
    #3 Gravity, Nov 22, 2012
  4. rday13

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    Well, it's possible that's he's flirting with you/teasing you as guys normally do sometimes.
    But there is the chance that he genuinely is trying to send a signal that he's interested. Have you tried returning some of his attention, by moving closer, or other things? If you're going to do this, it might be a good idea if the two of you were alone when it happened.

    If he rejects your advances, he might just have been fooling around...but in the event that he returns them, then he may be truly interested. Good luck!
     
    #4 rday13, Nov 22, 2012
  5. nostreborem

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    if i didn't think it would ruin my reputation i would probably tell him

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    thnx ill try that
     
    #5 nostreborem, Nov 22, 2012
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    You said he's your best friend. Can't you trust him with a secret?
     
    #6 Farouche, Nov 22, 2012
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    i can but i dont no how he will feel about it hence why i am so :confused: and need :help:
     
    #7 nostreborem, Nov 23, 2012
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    Maybe bring up the topic of girls and see how he responds.
     
    #8 geraldo, Nov 23, 2012
  9. nostreborem

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    but wot if he closet bi and what would i say and look out for
     
    #9 nostreborem, Nov 23, 2012
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    can people pls comment i need 2 no
     
    #10 nostreborem, Nov 23, 2012
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    I agree with this. Just flirt back. Next time he touches your bum, touch his bum in return! Or if it is normally him that initiates hugs, you should initiate them. When he talks to you seductively, then just say what is on your mind like 'I want to kiss you right now' :slight_smile:

    This is really weird behaviour... I don't think normal straight guys would go that far. I think he is interested in you.
     
    #11 Lad123, Nov 23, 2012
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    Ok I'll try to initiate the flirting hopefully I don't take it to far btw I did try to initiate the flirting last night at the restaurant(evry time he brushed my hand or knee i would genty rub my knee against his once in recognition of his "accidental brushings" is it okay to do that or would i be sending the wrong message:confused:) YAY r u kidding me that's great.:eusa_danc. also I nowadays as each day passes I am finding that I wanna kiss him more and more :rolle:

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    Just wondering if that's normal
     
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    I think the knee rubbing in return was fine and definately not sending the wrong message :slight_smile:
     
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    Cool but what about the desiring is that normal???
     
    #14 nostreborem, Nov 23, 2012
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    I think so, you really like him right? So it is normal to desire. I'd be more worried if you didn't.
     
    #15 Lad123, Nov 23, 2012
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    Okay :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

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    But i feel like im going to explode
     
    #16 nostreborem, Nov 23, 2012
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    Hey I've been reading this thread, and I have a 9-10 years best friend too.
    But he's probably straight, but I don't have any crush on him, so...
    Have your best friend ever talked with you about girls/girlfriends?
    Btw these signs are extremely romantic.
    You should come out to him, and see his reaction.
    ''Blah blah blah, I'm... Gay''
    If he reacts badly say something like
    "I was joking dude hehe"
    If he reacts good, ask him about his sexuality.
    Good luck ;D
     
    #17 FlameFeather, Nov 23, 2012
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    r u by any chance an aussie
     
    #18 nostreborem, Nov 24, 2012
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    again viewers pls comment it would be very helpful
     
    #19 nostreborem, Nov 24, 2012
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    No, why? XD
     
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