16 bisexual friend trouble pls give advice

hey there. Well I'm no proffesional on coming out or stuff but I could see how telling him anonymously would make you feel better - I probably would feel better. Tell him but make sure you do it completely anonymously and see if he tells you anything about it or see if theres any change in his behaviour - ask him about it if there is change. Maybe he'll reply....dunno. It's always a difficult thing not knowing. What I did was I asked my close friends what their opinions are on sexuality and I actually found out that one of them is willing to try same sex relationships if it becomes more accepted and one of them is extremely homophobic. So I got a good idea of who to come out to and when and how. Think it through, you may learn some valuable stuff about Will. Good luck buddy.

 

Hey there!

To start off, I understand how you feel, whenever you talk to him I Love You is on the edge of your tongue and you just wanna scream it? Well I would recommend talking to him about it. I am not too sure how to tell him secretly, by secretly do you mean just hint at it and hope he picks up on it? If that is what you mean, then just start with coming out (i am assuming you are closeted in this siuation?) and then move on from there. Luckily, you guys seem pretty close so it shouldn't be too difficult to integrate some LGBT topics into your conversations. But before you can even start thinking about any of that you should probably come out to him first.

 

Hi,

My opinion... You love him.

Did it come to you like an epiphany and suddenly all yor emotions made sense to you?

I'd say you love him.

Knowing life and how rare love can be I would risk it all and tell him.

Maybe not all at once, that can be scary. Tell him you miss his company. Spend more time with him. Be physical with him. Wait for the right moment and tell him your feelings.

Love can be a rare thing, explore it.

Stuck

 

I totally feel you. I was in the same boat with you a while ago (I think I am too now, but I'm just surpressing it). Try talking things over with him. The worst-case scenario would be if he turns out straight or doesn't have feelings for you. I highly doubt he would stop being friends with you. You can figure out the best case scenario yourself I had a simmilar experience that forced me to come out to my best friend. Things turned out that he's straighter than an arrow but all that even brought us closer. I love him. I really do, but all I can do is be his friend and try to move on.

Good luck! (*hug*)

 

Wow, I've never heard the anonymous idea! It actually sounds pretty good! I would do that and then see of he tells you about it, or how he reacts. Then if it goes well then is the time to try the waters (tell him you're bi) I personally would refrain from telling him about how you feel until you know how he will react! It's one thing to a straight person to know their friend is gay, it's a whole new thing however for them to know their friend is gay for them....

 

LOL, it doesn't make sense. Bi means sexual attraction towards both men and women, regardless of emotions. Sounds more appropriate to say the dreaded "G" word. I know, because I was in your shoes once. Denial is a powerful thing. Just letting you know that so you don't experience a rude awakening in the future. It's not pretty.

On to the issue with your friend. You would be taking a risk and need to decide if it's really worth it. The risk could be you losing a friendship. Sometimes we misinterpret things. We have feelings for someone and are so blinded that we can misinterpret their intentions. You need to be cautious. Give it more time.

 

Well what can I say? I feel EXACTLY the same way you do. Even with the whole "sexually attracted to guys and emotionally attracted to women", but I did figure out that I'm just gay because I'm not sexually attracted to girl at all. The famous "I love you" is always on the edge of my tongue waiting to come out every time I'm with him. I don't know about the anonymous stuff though... it does sound pretty good, but still. If you're as close to your friend as I am to mine he will figure out right away that it was you. At least my friend and I have that bond... he always knows what I'm thinking except how I feel about him. My advice would be to try to move on... the same advice everyone gave to me. I know it's hard I've been on the edge of crying myself. It's something we will have to do whether we like or not.