So there was this guy I really like and so I asked if we could be more than friends but he said he just wanted to stay friends. So now I am having a hard time not acting like a fool around him! I understand he just wants to be friends so I respect his decision but I can't help but make small moves!!!! So how do I keep myself in check without acting like an idiot!
To put it simply, you're incorrect. You CAN help make "small moves". You've simply given yourself permission to. And now you have to remove that permission. You have to remind yourself that he's a friend, nothing more, and you need to treat him as such. Lex
Try to act like you were before you asked him to be more than friends, just taking out the small moves that you used to make on him. Like the poster above said, you are probably giving yourself permission to make moves on this guy, and you do have the control to make it stop. If you're making the other uncomfortable, or you want to remain friends with him and not make a fool of yourself you have to learn to stay in control of yourself and your actions and take away that permission that you have given to yourself that tells you that what you are doing- making those small moves on him- is okay. Also, it would probably be best to just try and stay cool while you're around him; in some ways it's your self-consciousness talking when you say that you always seem to make a fool of yourself around him.
