Feeling Really Alone In a Group of Friends

Wait, let's just get this straight: how are you so sure he did out you to your three friends, if he denies it, and your friends deny it?

If you are certain and they're all lying to your face, I think you should just recognise that they're not really your friends. But instead out cutting them out completely, you'll have to be clever. Recognise that you need some people in your life and that they can come in handy every so often when you're bored and stuff. But you'll know that they're not really your friends and you can't trust them. Yet, it's a terrible idea to decide to cut them if you've got no-one else to fall back on. That will just be lonely.

And you need to get out there and make some new friends. Is there an LGBT society in your college? Surely there must be LGBT groups in your near vicinity. You need to go out there and make some sort of an effort.

And while joining an LGBT group is bar far the best thing you could do, there are definitely other social groups you could join that aren't so LGBT-focused.

The short of it is that you need to recognise that these guys aren't really your friends. But I've noticed that the most successful people know this, yet they don't bother cutting people out of their lives. They use them when it comes in handy to keep them occupied. And you need to learn how to do this, while making new — good — friends along the way.

 

I feel for you. My cousin outed me to my mom after I had told her in strict confidence. When my mom confronted me I denied it, I wasn't ready. Then my cousin got really pissed at me for denying it.
Loads of people will never understand the nagging doubts,uncertainty and fear of venturing out of the closet.
I'm so sorry tornado go through that.

---------- Post added 25th Mar 2013 at 10:34 PM ----------

You had to, no tornado. Sorry, auto correct.

 

Try talking to them... make them see your point somehow...
feeling alone is the worst thing ever, and even not trusting them from now on (at least not right now), it is not good to make them choose between you two (you may end looking bad) or staying alone.
But try making new friends, people just like you, so you can find people who really understands you and respect you for who you are.
Hope it helps!

 

Well then get new friends. But until you do, become one of these people for a short while. I'm definitely not one of those people either. Trust me, I'm not. But I've noticed that the happiest people tend to be, and I've taken a few pages from their book and used it a bit myself. And it works.

But the moral of the story is this: get new friends. And until you do get new friends, it's quite OK to keep these assholes around so you don't completely die of boredom, while deep down you know what they truly are.