Is it wrong that I don't want my parents to be apart of my life?

But the sound (reading) of it, you sound like a youngin'.

It's natural to want to seperate from your parents.
Plus if they are negative, even if they don't take it out on you, it's also natural not want to be around them.

Negative bad, positive goood.

 

Are you financially dependent on them? Do you live at home? Are you old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences if you cut off contact?

If you can answer these questions, it's really up to you. Your dad, though... I'd give him some sort of chance, at least. It's more foggy for your mom, but... I'm sure if I were a parent, I'd be devastated if my kid cut off contact with me. I'd advise that if you do this, you still have some sort of a way to be in contact with them. You never know what the future holds, and keeping options open is the best way for the most positive opportunities.

 

I think you need to take time to seriously think about it, cutting your parents out of your life is a big thing and will make a big impact on your life. If you're financially independant why not move out on your own first then you'd only see your parents at your choosing furthermore your dad seems like a nice guy and surely it'd be better to just deal with your mothers attitude to maintain a relationship with him however thats just my opinion.

 

If I were in that situation I would probably give your dad a another shot but I don't blame you for wanting to get away from your mother. If you do feel like you have to just get them out of your life don't just drop off the face of the earth, they are your parents and they will worry. Maybe if necessary do it gradually, that way you have time for gain full financial/personal independence.

 

This is actually fairly easy to do in a (mostly) non-confrontational way.

When you are old enough (which sounds like it will be happening soon) move out of the area. Personally, I'm a big fan of what I call the Two Hour Rule of Family Harmony:

For maximum family harmony all members of the family should be at least 2hrs plane ride (not drive time, plane ride) from all other members of the family. This means that you can call each other from time to time, and email if you want, but no one is dropping in unexpectedly. And as time goes on the amount of communication tends to drop because you all have things to do. Get caller ID and you don't even have to answer the phone if you don't feel like it and can call back when you think it's best or when you feel up to it.

I love my family lots but also like living my own life. I'm also something like 8hrs plane ride from the closest one of them and more like 12hrs for most. And I'm OK with that.

Unless your parents want to try to insist that you should live in the same town or something, you can readily look for post-18 opportunities that place you at some remove from them.

Todd

 

My family aren't really a part of my life. I understand that they had it rough (since both of them work jobs that aren't collage dependent, low pay and high hours) however they've never been there for me emotionally and just seem distant to me.

Now I don't rely on them at all for most stuff, I do all my own finances, forums, etc so they have almost no control in my life and on my future. They give me some money, housing, and I occasionally help them out; that's just about how it goes. We really don't talk much to be honest, other then when they confront me which to be honest I just blow off, they weren't there all my life, they think they can control me now :lol:.

So I say don't worry about it, if your seriously concerned about your safety/housing situation due to your orientation then you might want to stay closeted but as you age and grow older the amount your family is in your life is up to you. You'll have that chance to make them decide if they really want to keep you in their lives, but you have to get there and hold for your own.

Best of luck to you.

 

Best wishes to you, Beefheart, and don’t feel obliged to keep in touch with your parents just because they gave birth to you. You have your own life to live and you should be free to do so without letting their expectation of you to get in the way. There’s no need to feel bad about it! Your mother seems to have some very big issues with herself. Don’t let it get to you! Move out as soon as you can and don’t look back! And if you were never really close to your father to begin with it might be a bit too late to start now, especially if it’s one sided.

 

In direct reply to your title, It's your life, so no, I guess not

I would always advise trying to make your relationship with your parents better if you can, but there is no obligation, I suppose!