So there's this guy I see every day, pretty much, and I've been trying to get up the nerve to ask him out. Yesterday I finally did, and we had the most awesome date today. We were texting a while ago, really enjoying ourselves, and when I go to bed, he says "Good night, love you." Not wanting to enbarass him bi said "night, you too." After serious deliberation I told him I like him a lot, but I'm not comfortable doing big stuff that soon. I said I'd be comfortable when we knew each other better before stuff like that. He said sorry, it slipped out and just let him know when I'm ready. Not sure what to do now. I do really like him.
Well :eusa_danc for the date! I applaud your courage! You made it happen. (!) But it's kind of weird that he threw out the L word so soon. :eusa_eh: I think you went about the situation the right way though.
Other than that he was completely cool and normal. It was literally the only sticking point. He seemed finewith me not being comfortable with it yet. Pretty sure it was his first date ever. Mine too.
It could have actually been accidental. Many households say the phrase "Good Night, Love You" every night ritualistically. I've had to consciously stop myself at good night on many occasions. But I am glad it went well.
Maybe. We really hit off. I really like him, too. He's cool, not at all Norman Bates, like you'd expect from something like that. I just can't be comfortable saying it so soon. He was really respectful of my wanting to take things slow.
It does sound that it was legitimate accident, I can't recount the number of times I've said I love you but here are some examples: I said bye I love you to a girl at a drive thru window, because she said it first and I just went on autopilot Teachers /professors New friends My old best friends grandma It just slips out sometimes. However just fyi if anyone says it in a creepy way or means it after the first date You run Run so far away
Just be cautious. Guys who throw out "I love you" after a first date (assuming it wasn't accidental) can be the really clingy/insecure type. Go slow, and maybe have a conversation about going slow, and see where it leads. If he is clingy, it should start to show itself within the next 3-4 weeks if not sooner.
Don't overthink things. After all you see him every day and you did not say for how long. So it is not like a blind date saying it. After all it could have been just a automatic responce like others have said. Take it slow and enjoy him! June
Okay. I kind of see what you guys see getting at. I'm just not sure how out it would have "just slipped" in a text message.
Oh, if it was a text the definitely be careful like chip said I had a guy text me I'd be the perfect husband I'm 18 and we've only met once... 15/16 of my body is out the door
He said 'love you' at the end of his text, not 'I love you'. There's a distinct difference. You can be 'in love' with somebody or love them as a person. I think he probably meant the latter? I have friends that always put 'ly' or 'lyl' at the end of texts all of the time. Just keep it gradual, keep texting and look out for any more clues as to whether he's the kinda guy that falls head over heels before he's even had the chance to get to know you first.
Lewis: yeah, I see what you mean. Plus he was very respectful of my wishes to take things slowly. Other than that everything was perfect.
