Devestating After-Effects of Coming Out

Wow, that’s low of her. Sorry it turned out this way. (*hug*) She actually said she’ll tell if you distance yourself from her or otherwise “upset” her? Would people believe her or has she finked on others so nobody takes her serious.

 

I hope someone comes along with great advice for you very soon. Sorry I can’t help or even just suggest something mildly helpful. I hope she finds her maturity/finishes processing and doesn't keep this crap up. You don’t have to answer this: Are you guys in high school (nearing the end of being stuck with the same people) or beginning of college? Part of what sucks about schooling is the packs of jerks who make it miserable for us.

 

HUGE (*hug*)

I can't tell you how terrible January was for me. I'm just finally recovering from the huge hit it made for me academically today. Literally today, I gave up half my Easter Sunday. I'm here on EC unwinding a little bit before round 2 and am planning on going to bed around 3 this morning. Lucky me my first class is in the afternoon. I was just an embarrassing emotional wreck, and it was 100% me and my partner, and the emotional hell it was causing. It's just incredible how cruel people can be.

There really is not a right answer here. I don't think she deserves any more of your love and attention, but your safety is a huge concern. I don't feel like giving in is the best long term strategy. It might be necessary in the short term. But it will probably encourage her to blackmail you more, and you can't trust her not to tell people anyway.

Do you know who she would tell? Is there a safe way you could tell anyone first on your terms (if they are otherwise LGBT friendly especially)? It's really scary feeling like you need to come out, and it's a little bit sad that you can't do things on your own terms right now. But every friend you can get on your side will help. I mean still use caution. How cool are your parents?

Does your school have any kind of drama or theater clubs? It's way late in the school year sure. But if you can make friends with those people... I hate to sound this way because it is a cliche but some of my best LGBT friends were made that way and I'm pretty sure you'll run into a few there. You might even be able to find a cute girlfriend or boyfriend who can support you knowing everything right at the start of the relationship. A lot of them started out not being social butterflies and will have major nerd sympathy.

You really don't deserve any of the things she is doing to you I don't want to be mean and I apologize if you still have feelings for her, but if she is this vindictive or at least has this side to her, she is going to end up with someone she deserves eventually. You can do so much better.

I just hate it when people I like are getting hurt and I can't do anything about it Good luck, please let us know how things are going.

 

Well, while I do not agree with her telling anyone because that's just being vengeful. She's hurting, but she did request a break, which I think you should give her. She deserves space and time apart, so she can collect her thoughts and think about her future with or without you. I'm sure she doesn't know how to react, so it appears that she is indeed moving on.

I know that you do not approve and it does show you how much she does not care about your feelings. I know it hurts because she's moving on so quickly, but rebounds are a way to make people feel better about themselves. When things gets tough, you usually realize who your true friends are. I really hope she does not out you, and I'm sure you're not ready for anyone else to know. I'm not sure if I'm of much help, but just let her cool off for a while and keep yourself occupied. I know it's easier said than done, so hang in there (*hug*)