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Waiting for him.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by CinePhys, Apr 1, 2013.

  1. CinePhys

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    TL: DR at the bottom.


    Backstory: On Wednesday, 'T' messages me on facebook and the following conversation ensues:
    ***Previous unrelated conversation*** (imagine smiley and winky faces dotted around the conversation;
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    Me: Oh! Well in that case xx

    Him: Haha xxxx mate Friday! We are doing summat!!

    Fuck yes xx! I'm up for anything

    Haha ok mate xxxx lets get Ben out! Haha

    Good luck with that haha xx (Link to an album on facebook I uploaded for him)

    Haha yeah that's what I thought xx
    Says its unavailable
    Is it on your profile? Xx

    Yeah, in an album

    Ill have a look xxxxx
    Ha hahahaha cheers mate xxx fucking hilarious xxxxx

    Anything for you xxxx Let me know what you want to do when xxx

    I will mate xx

    I've asked B, but fuck knows what's going on! Haha

    He doesn't seem to, "B, what are you doing on the weekend?!" ....."I'm...not sure?"
    Good job, B, Good job.

    Haha nice one!!
    B.........
    Is.........
    Free...........
    Friday............

    Yep

    Saweet!!!!

    As I said, up for anything xx

    Nice! Xxx ill get B to do summat xxxx

    Lol That would be good A pretty face is always welcome so 2 would be great xx

    Haha you cheeky shit! xx

    Hehe I try xx Charm offensive

    Yup cxx
    It's working xxx I'm blushing xxx

    Haha, don't know how B would look... Oh wait yeah I do xxx I'll just have to get used to being jealous of M(T's girlfriend) and N (The girl B has a thing for) xx

    Haha fair enough mate. X

    Hehe xxx see you Friday sometime xxxxxx

    Yeah mate see you soon xxxx

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    So yeah, pretty freaking excited through Wednesday and Thursday. On Thursday, I message him to get some details (seeing as it would help and everything....):

    What's on the agenda for tomorrow? You coming over mine, I'm coming over yours? Staying for tea? what times? That sort of thing xx
    Mum would like to know x

    Fair enough mate, ermm I'm going to get Ben then well come see you, but I have to go to Exeter to get my brother, for 4 o'clock soooooo no tea or nuffin

    Ok xxx See you whenever you turn up xx

    K bro

    Also: If you want to bring anything, I will pay you back like Ben and Jerry's, maybe xxx

    Ok mate


    (notice the lack of kisses this time :dry: )

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    So Friday rolls around. Nothing. No one turns up. No text, nothing.

    Later that night (yeah, nothing for the whole day in terms of an explanation) I message HIM:
    Which Friday did you mean then?

    Haha sorry mate, I had to go get my brother from Exeter and cook tea xxxx (Haha? It's really rude to just keep someone hanging like that :dry: )

    So what WAS the plan, I thought you were coming during the day?

    I was but I had to go get my brother earlier than expected, should've let you know sorry xx

    (I was tempted to put "Yeah, you should have" but I was raised to be more tactful than that) I guess another time then
    You can choose, by the way.

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    Now, Me and 'T' are best mates as I've said in other posts on here, we tell each other things (I tell him things...) and we do stuff together and it's hunky dory. I'm still slightly angry or annoyed at him, but at the same time, I want to spend time with him. I feel' as if he 'owes' me the friday.

    Whenever we arrange to do something, it's him arranging it as he works when his employers need him to work, and I have fixed hours, so to speak (non during the holidays as I work for the college we attend) so it's easier if he suggests a time because he knows when he's free. So i'm essentially waiting for him to message me everyday. I know he has other commitments but...yeah, I want to spend time with him and he said we would...


    I half expect him to come down my drive-way in his car, unannounced, but I know that's just wishful thinking. EUGH. How am I supposed to feel right now? I want to text him to see what's going on, and what time we CAN hang out without something getting in the way, but I don't want to be pushy... :icon_sad::bang:



    TL: DR
    Friend doesn't come round when arranged - Doesn't let me know and I ask him. Says sorry, doesn't re-arrange a time to hang out. Feeling hurt/annoyed/slightly angry. Don't know if I should text due to being 'pushy' or not - He knows I want to hang out with him, should I just wait? :confused::confused::confused:

    Maybe I'm reading to much into it..? :eusa_doh:
     
  2. asmith6543

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    I'm from the USA and without your commentary regarding your conversation I would have never understood what the conversation between your friend and you was about.

    Back to the topic, I'm guessing he's just truly busy. If you see this type of behavior going forward, you will have your answer.