:help: I am a gay teenager and I have come out to no one. It's pretty scary when I do think of coming out because of how my guy friends would respond. However, I have this one male friend who is a great friend of mine and he just came back to visit for spring break from Germany. We became pretty close while he was a foreign exchange student over here in the U.S. What confused me about him was almost everything about him! Before we even began talking he would just stare at me during lunch and he even came and sat in front of me at my lunch table to look at me. Then, when we did begin talking, he would always tell me how good looking I was and that I'm pretty sexy. Never have I seen myself this way and I was extremely shocked that he could find me attractive because he is one hot German guy with blonde hair and blue eyes and I'm just a Hispanic kid. He would always touch me and he even smacked me on the ass a couple times. Then, while we were at a track meet together, we were in one of the tents just by ourselves and that's when he asked me if I wanted to make out with him. Boy, my jaw dropped and I could not believe it. I could not get myself to utter a response and after a couple minutes of just dead silence, he said I'm just kidding. I was so upset with myself because I did not seize that moment like I should've. Then from there, I believed he began to think of me as straight as he would talk about girls more around me. But, his gay notions never quit and he always touched me and when we hung out, we would judge the looks of other guys and he would sit so close to me. Our arms would be touching and he wouldn't do anything. The subject of porn came up once and he told me if he ever did porn, it would be gay porn because "they make the most money." Then, summer hit and he had to return home and I felt extremely sad to be losing such a good friend, but we never lost contact. Being German though, he would always get drunk back home and he would message me I love you and I miss you a lot. Then he came back recently for spring break for a couple weeks. He again told me I looked pretty good and when he was laying on my bed he told me to shut the lights off, get undressed, and come lay with him. However, I always think he's just joking...but these "jokes" always make me question him. Also, when he was putting on his chap stick, he was like "you wanna make out buddy?" and winked at me, but again, it seemed like a joke. When it was time for him and I to say goodbye, we gave each other a hug, but he stood so close in front of me for about a minute just staring at me with the cutest smile. Something in my gut told me he wanted something more than a hug, like a kiss, but I always get so scared around him because of how good looking he is and the fact he may be straight. It's just so frustrating :bang: So, my ultimate question is: when he returns, should I make a move and try something such as a kiss , or just leave it go and just be friends? Thank you in advance for any response and insight!!!
Why not try? I mean if it fails you can say just joking just like him. I know it would make it awkward if it does fail but that can change over time. If it works then congrats.
"I'm just a Hispanic kid." Really? Come on guy. Just because you're Hispanic doesn't mean you're less attractive than a non-Hispanic person. Forget that nonsense that some people try to get you to believe that everything blue eyed and blond haired is the best. You're just as good as anyone else. As for your question yeah go for it. If not you'll be talking bout coulda, woulda, shoulda.
The best way to handle one of this situations where you're not sure; initiate them yourself. Ask him if he wants to make out, see if he goes for it.
I agree with this and i think im my mind i think he might really want to do these things with you, and he might be curious about trying thoes things with another guy. anyway i would make a move on him and if it doesn't work out then just say you were joking, or you could come out to him. But with the way he treats you, i doubt he would care if you tryed something on him or care if you were bi. true friends love you for you, not your sexual orentation. =] good luck man and i hope you the best, remember to update us oh how things go! =] Luke. =]
Gotta agree with this. Love yourself, man. We're all beautiful in our way regardless of race or ethnicity. But back to your topic, it's kinda hard to say if he's joking or not. He seems like he's trying to get a reaction from you, but I have straight friends who used to do similar things while we were growing up. You could be honest and tell him that you're into him. Or you can turn the tables and call his bluff in the guise of playing along with the joke. For instance, next time he asks you if you want to make out with him, grin and say "Sure" and gauge his reaction. If it's not one you're hoping for, just laugh the whole thing off as a joke yourself.
Thanks everyone. He won't be back till a while but we Skype and everything and he always tells me he misses me. I sent him a kissy face and he didn't say anything about it but right after it, he liked my profile pic and commented stud. I'll keep everyone posted though about everything. Thank you guys so much!!! :icon_bigg
I came across this post. Actually wanted to write more but I see it's more than a month before. I guess u two are well-together now =D btw, just to stop by and say that he may be your choice and the way he treats you is so sweett.. I wish my crush would be more obvious like him... I HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, GO FOR IT.
................... Just because you are Hispanic doesn't mean you get to be racist against Hispanics!
