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My straight friend keeps on playing with me.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Kirio, Apr 12, 2013.

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  1. Kirio

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    So at first day of school theres this new guy, hes one of those calm,cool and collected straight guys. I didn't really like him and i even ignored him, but something change when we became friends. It started on our school program. Hes was sprinting towards me telling me girls he like... Then a little later he told me he likes me,he even kissed me on my cheek and he told me he got hard,he brushed my hand over his crotch and it layed there for about 60 sec. From that day i felt affection towards him..i never really told and i avoided as much as possible.. But he kept on telling me he likes me and calls me names like babe and puts his hand in mu lap then later he goes tell me its just a joke,this kept on happening for a few months. It was his girlfriends birthday and he invited me to go. When i got there he borrowed his girlfriends bike and he told me to ride with him just me and him hugging him from behind.... It felt so strange, everday i cried because i dont know how to react, i dont like to assume and say shit.. But during our class the lights was off because the teacher made us watch a movie and he patted my shoulder, signaling me to go to the back row with him so we can talk...he held my hand and kept on kissing it.. I felt loved but i remembered hes straight soo i asked him if he likes me he replies with yes, i love you with all my heart and then he kisses my hands again...i told him i know he just playing and laugh so it wont be awkward..and he laughed back at me, it felt like he was rejecting my feelings....Please i need help what should i do? And by the way when we go out he always buys me food and drinks and it makes me feel strange like its a date...he makes me go crazy... I NEED EVERYONES OPINION. Im not sure if he liked me or hes jut messing with me.
     
    #1 Kirio, Apr 12, 2013
  2. josh9623

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    he definitely does not sound straight to me but he may not know or believe that he's not. from my own personal experience just because he may have feelings for you he may be in denial, however his feelings may lead him to open up to himself and others later on. have you flat out asked him seriously if he likes you in that way, or if he's gay or bi? Also, to me the girlfriend means nothing with the way he acts around you. it would also be easier to gauge the situation if we knew how old you are.
     
    #2 josh9623, Apr 12, 2013
  3. Zmajcek

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    I have a very similar and even worse experience. My best friend did all the things you mentioned plus a lot more, which crushed me psychologically at one point, because he kept mentioned girls and hooking up with them during the whole process. I even confronted him about it and he acted dumbfounded, like "dude I was just playing with you, you are my best friend, how could you think that?" And then I was wondering if I am the crazy one or he is just really that manipulative...

    When I came out to him, cause I did, he totally changed his act. Even today I think he has bisexual urges but he is not ready to face them; espcially not with a gay guy who knows what he wants.

    If you want my opinion, confront him about it. And show him that this bothers you. He will never come out to you, though deep inside he knows a part of him wants you.
     
    #3 Zmajcek, Apr 13, 2013
  4. Dakine

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    The kissing your hands etc could be anything BUT in my opinion what throws all doubt aside to me is him putting your hand on his junk to show u that u made him hard. Unless u r in the porn industry or u r a stripper people just don't randomly do that, especially to tell u that u made them hard. Again, just my opinion, but if I was a betting man, I'd go all in on this guy liking u like that. He may not even know that's what's going on yet or he may not be willing to admit it yet, but u have every reason to believe its the case.
     
    #4 Dakine, Apr 13, 2013
  5. BudderMC

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    Does he know you're bi?

    Have you told him that what he's doing is confusing for you?
     
    #5 BudderMC, Apr 13, 2013
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