How long should it take for someone to realize that they are incompatible with someone else? I know that everyone is different, but I think I'm ready part ways with the girl I've been dating. We have dating for about 6-8 months and I cannot take her stubborn ways any longer. I think anything past 3 months is long enough to know if a relationship is meant to be or not. I mean, we are not exclusive nor do I want to be; I just don't see myself falling in love with her. We just have different goals in life and her little quirks are very annoying to me. I've tried to ignore them, then again maybe it's because of my monthly cycle :tantrum: Sometimes, I wonder if I am the one with the problem :eusa_doh: After all, I have a tendency to sabotage relationships because I am afraid of commitment :help:
In a lot of ways, you're answering your own question. If you're not willing to continue the relationship any longer, then it's been long enough for you to know you're not compatible. Everyone has their own "dating threshold," so to speak - four years, one year, three years. Most people I know will go at least a year, to get a well-rounded picture of what the person is like at different stages in time, but that assumes there aren't any obvious major problems in the relationship. If you have a fear of commitment, that may be a separate issue. Do you have any idea where this fear might come from?
