i need some serious advice on how to handle my gfs anger

It's hard to say why your gf's experiencing the anger she's experiencing, or whether it's a result of some other stress she's dealing with or just a way she's learned to behave. But one thing is certain - from the sound of your post, you're not happy with it, and it's not good for you. Every couple gets in fights, but if you're being yelled at for things you don't think are problems and you don't feel like you can talk to your gf about these feelings, then it's not ok, and something needs to be done.

Do you think you would be able to talk to her when she's calm? If so, would you feel comfortable doing that? If not, could you talk to someone else about this? And have you talked to anyone about it other than on here, yet?

 

Make her drink cold water and suggest exercise getting all the steam out

 

my sister is really similar to this. the way that i handle it is that i try hard to recognize when she's being irrational/getting angry at me for no reason and try to control my response. i find that the angrier i get at her, the more of an excuse she has to be angry at me, and that just ends up with both of us screaming at each other.

that being said, i do feel like since she's your gf and all, you really should have a talk with her about this. i totally understand that she probably won't want to hear it, but a relationship kind of depends on honesty and comfortableness. this is something you need to work out, because from what you've written it really sounds like you don't enjoy spending time with her, which i'm guessing is not actually the case.

maybe write it to her in a note, and tell her to come talk to you about it when she's ready? that way she'd hear you out and possibly have time to cool off before discussing it with you. idk. possibly you just need a break from her/vacation alone by yourself?

 

She has serious space issues. I would say you need a couple counselor to work her past the clingy nature she has. She is suffocating you it sounds to me. It is her inexperence with relationships causing this or I'll bet or she has been hurt and feels if she clings you will stay close when in fact she is pushing you away. The anger part is a way of manipulating you to do what she wants. That is bad I would say. It sounds like a unhealthy relationship to me and will end in desaster without professional help. I learned as I went how to treat men gaining knoledge with age. She is only 19 and everything is new to her. June

 

One of my friends went through this with her boyfriend. The problem is, she realized it herself after their breakup and her initial depressed stage. I would agree with June that she's still inexperienced, and Lightning's advice is pretty good. Notes are nonconfrontational. Leave a sweet, polite note explaining how you feel somewhere you know she will see it, and be out of the house for a bit.
Sign a heart next to your name Make her feel secure and still understand.