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My best friend is hitting on me.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by manoverboard09, May 2, 2013.

  1. manoverboard09

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    And I don't like it.. it creeps me out.
    It's blatantly obvious it's happening, because everyone else is noticing too.
    Now.. it wouldn't be such a problem, but my best friend is a girl.. and she doesn't know I'm gay. So it's a bit awkward I guess. Especially because I see her as my sister.
    She's very touchy.. keeps trying to hold me hands (and even wanted me to change in front of her today when I went to the next room.. she was like "Why don't you change in here?? I would change in front of you." and that was when it just creeped me out the most).
    She says she has dreams about me, one where I was her boyfriend and it felt nice and right.
    It's just like.. ugh, why? Why can't we just be best friends? We finish each others sentences and thoughts, sure we'd make a great couple.. if I like girls. Hell, if I was even attracted to her. But I'm not.
    I tell her no, to stop, and I tell her I could never see her as my girlfriend or anything. I'm constantly reminding her that I see her as my sister. Just wish she'd stop... >__<
     
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    Have you told her you're just not interested? She deserves to know. (not about being gay necessarily but that it's not reciprocated)
     
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    I had a simular situation and all I can say is tell your feelings now before you end up in a very bad spot.
     
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    Yeah, I have told her. she just doesn't seem to get it *facepalm*



    True Hawthorne, I'm just not sure how to go about it? How did you?
     
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    Man, that's an awkward, horrible situation!

    If you've told her already that you don't think of her in that way, maybe you need to tell her why? Spill the beans (if you're more comfortable doing that now).
     
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    Unfortunately it had major consequencesand ultimately destroyed not just our friendship but friendship with like 5 other people at the same time it's really risky thing to do because it could just trash your friendship and if you think she so close to you it might be better for you to just be nice about it and not say anything for a little bit but ultimately you know your feelings are your feelings and she's not going to like it no matter

    See mine was a bit different because she knew I was gay and was being all inlove with me and it was ultimatwly unhealthy and so I said we need to talk we talked i said my piece ahe didn't like it and it turned into a giant mess because her feelings were hurt because I didnt the same feelings its really unfortunate because I lost a lot that day. So word of advice if you tell her to kindly back off tread carefully bwcause it isbt okay even if rold it is alright because that is a flat out lie.
     
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    I've never just said to anyone "Hey I'm gay", I kinda just let it slip out if they ask or the situation asks for it. I guess with her I should just tell her "Hey I like this one boy.." because I do. Even though that's not going anywhere.. but still. I guess it wouldn't hurt to tell her if she decides to try and pursue this more.

    Yeah.. see, that sucks, especially because we have the same little group of friends almost. I have more friends outside of our group, but that's like my main group who I hang out with the most.
    She knew you were gay but was still trying to be with you? I don't see how she expected that to work? :confused: It wasn't your fault you didn't like her. I guess I'll be in the same boat when it comes to hurting her feelings.. not much I can do about that.
     
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    You should lie to her about dating someone else.Then she will stop
     
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    I'd disagree with this. Lies usually get found out and that'll only cause more pain in the end.
     
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    Tell her I'm dating you, my other best friend? lol.




    Yeah.. I couldn't do that to her! Plus she would be really curious about it as she is everything else. Love her, but she gets really nosy sometimes.
    She told me about another dream she had last night where she confessed her feelings to me, but I changed the subject quick.
     
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    LOL i dont know her so i cant tell her that xD silly
     
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    No no, I mean I would tell her! Not you... pshh lol
     
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    xD then tell her i dont mind :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Haha okay love :slight_smile:



    But yeah.. I guess I'll have to tell her the truth sometime. Probably sooner than I really wanted.
     
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    Yeah as soon as you want her to stop :slight_smile:
     
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    AKA.. now! But if I told her that I was gay and that I knew she has feelings for me she would probably deny it.
     
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    So what?She will stop hitting on you thats what we want.
     
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    "we" :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    I know, but at the same time I don't wanna crush her.
     
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    Just do it, then at least she'll have a reason why you're rejecting her affections.

    You heartbreaker!! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    *Heartbreaker from Hurt,plays in the background*