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Should I tell my mom?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Justme19, May 8, 2013.

  1. Justme19

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    Well all my life I have been sheltered up until 18. I had to go to a therapist who referred me to this place for youths because my mom and I didn't get along and I had no family I could stay with them before I worked things out with my mom. So I moved in and stayed there a while for me it was the first time I got to interact with any kind of people at all. Most were troubled and annoying but in the first few days I got along alright with this girl. She was odd but I felt sorry for her and we had a good conversation. It appeared she had a great sense of humor. So next time I was talking to her and I found out that she was transgender. And well we'd talk a lot and she was the first one I admitted I felt like I was similar. I had eventually told many there that's what I felt Like I too was transgender. But I'd never do it there. But now I wish I had. For certain monetary reasons. But anyway after I left the girl I first talked about it I was still in contact with her sorta and well she wanted me to go to the lgbt center with her for the translation group. I have gone a few times. I have concluded I don't feel as strongly as they do. But there's many similarities I sometimes feel I don't have the courage though to be like that though to express what I really am. What I feel like. My life has been like fuck your feelings. But I'm getting there.

    So my mom on the other hand actually knows how I felt when I was 12-14. I felt really like I wanted to transition. She always tries to bring this up to somehow say I'm not straight. Even though I do like guys. And she knows this. I've learned my feelings for guys are very strong and I actually obsess about guys I like. But my mom doesn't like people like that are lgbt. But I wasn't really thinking of telling her I'm trans because I'm not sure myself but more coming out as bigender. She hardly knows anything about it though. But I want to explain so when I do express myself the way I want she'll understand I'm not a lesbian or anything. I guess I just don't want assumptions. I'm 19 and I live with her. So it's not like I can hide this about me... Advice?
     
  2. manoverboard09

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    You say she's always trying to bring it up to you, saying you're not straight? Right? So obviously she sees something there, and she assumes it. From what I'm reading I think I would talk to her about it. It's obviously bothering you, but first I think you need to accept yourself and really decide what/who you are before coming out to anyone. You have to come out to yourself first, and once you explain to someone that you're transgender I think it would be difficult to take all of that back.
    So, basically, if you accept yourself I say go for it. Tell her who you are, even if she doesn't accept the lgbt community, you're her child, she'll love you no matter I would hope.
     
  3. Justme19

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    Back then I said I liked guys. I said I was a boy. And she always says I think I'm a boy therefore gay or something like that like girls to some capacity.

    She seriously hates those people. She thinks they should be beaten. But I'm not a lesbian or actually trans. And I don't want her to get that idea. I guess I don't want her to make assumptions.

    I accept myself I guess but I feel like I've never wanted to admit I don't like my body. I'd rather just present myself differently with attire but not a medical process at least not now.
     
    #3 Justme19, May 8, 2013
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  4. Justme19

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    She also tried to intimate I was lesbian yesterday.
     
  5. Justme19

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    Yeah I told her it didn't go we'll but she actually didn't seem upset at my saying I'm bigender...