Is he gay?

I have a huge crush on a guy from my school, lets call him Ryan. Ryan and I hang out often, always with a group of friends. He is very loud and very funny. He can also be kind of a dork which contributes to why I like him. When he talks about me to other people he tells them how funny and awesome I am. We went to anair soft event together with a group of friends and when we returned he told everyone how I kicked ass. He has also told me multiple times that he will miss me a lot when I leave for college (he is a junior and I'm a senior) and he has yet to say this to any of the other seniors in our friend group. Ryan and I both volunteered at a fashion show last month. My mother was on the committee and that's how I became obligated to volunteer. I was telling Ryan and my friends about the fashion show and he said that it sounded really cool and he asked to volunteer as well. We both ended up working the show and it was actually a lot if fun. He worked coat check while I managed the silent auction. He made a effort to visit me multiple times over the night. He also said that he really enjoyed events like this. The main reason that I suspect that he may be gay is that he makes a lot of "but that would be gay right?" jokes. He has also asked me if I was gay infront of large groups of people twice. I lied and said I was straight because I didn't feel confortable coming out to that many people at one moment. I'm beginning to suspect that he wanted to know if anyone else in the group was gay but did it the wrong way. I never even thought of him being gay until my friends doubts about his sexuality opened my eyes. They don't know anything about my sexuality but they don't mind gays so I'm considering coming out to them soon. But when Ryan is not there they discuss the possibilities of him being a homosexual. His best friend told me that Ryan has never dated anyone cause he tends to find a bunch offlaws in the girls and he is then no longer interested in them. Ryan does make a lot of loud, exaggerated comments about girls when he is with a group of guys. He is going to rom with a very attractive girl and he tells us that he intends to hook up with her. His best friend told me that its never going to happen cause she does not want to go with him. I feel like Ryan is just trying to talk it up to impress a group of guys and not appear gay. Of course I could be wrong but last night leads me to continue with my earlier assumptions. We went to go see the Great Gatbsy with a friend and his prom date. Ryan and I sat next to each other. Almost immediately he put his foot and leg against mine. I even noticed him look over at my a couple of times. I even saw him adjust himself multiple times. After the movie he made a bunch of jokes about that night being a double date. I have always felt that there was a faint chance that Ryan was gay and I didn't want to pursue a straight guy because that only ends with awkwardness and embarrassment but last night was the first time I think that a guy has come onto me. I was wondering about what other people think about this situation like do you think that he is gay? And how are some ways to handle the situation? And what do if he is gay? Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

So I came out to a friend last week. It felt really good finally coming out to somebody. It even turned out that she was bi. She is not very open about her sexuality either so it's nice to have someone in the same situation. I told her everything about my crush on Ryan. She agrees that there is a high chance that he is gay. She also said that she will do some looking into it. I'm glad to have such an awesome friend.

Yesterday was Prom. It was a lot of fun. I talked to Ryan many times during the night. He had been talking it up about how he and he date were going to hook up during prom. The entire night I only saw him with his date once. The other times he was wondering around alone. My date and I went to 2 different posts. She went with some of her girlfriends for a slumber party and I went to this other guy's post. I invited Ryan 2 weeks prior to prom to the post and he said that he would come. He ditched his date to go to the same post as me. He has been saying for months now how much he liked her and he was perfectly willing to blow her off and hang out. The post was pretty fun. I invited one of my friends who graduated a semester early to post. the guy to girl ratio was really offand someone suggested to invite this one girl who was just awful so I told them that my friend "nikki" would come instead. Ryan was the only one who didn't drink anything. He seemed really tired. Nikki, Ryan, and I had a lot of fun playing a bunch of different games and stuff. He sat next to me for a lot of the games and we touched a lot. We sat on a giant bean bag chair together and he moved over the bag of potatoe chips and pretzels and then layed down right next to me. There was this one room with a tv and two beds and he got in the same bed as me. I enjoyed Nikki's company but I'm afraid that he might have thought that there is something going on between us because we are so close. Ryan ended up leaving at 4am (3 hours before everyone else). I was really bummed that he left cause we were having so much fun. I texted him later in the day that I should have left when he did because it wasn't as fun after he left. He replied with "Haha thanks". I'm probably getting too into this but I have never liked a guy so much. I have had crushes before but nothing ever like this.

When he was gone a friend of mine was wasted and telling me everything about his life. He said ask me anything and I'll say the 100% truth. I asked he what he thought about Ryan (this friend doesn't like Ryan all that much) he said that he thinks that he's gay and got into a lot of the points I made earlier. After post I was texting another friend cause he was curious to know the details. I told him about my drunk friend and some of the stuff we talked about. I also through in that he suggested that Ryan was gay cause I wanted to know what my friend would have to say about it. He told me about how Ryan talked it up about his goal to hook up with girls during a MUN dance. He said that Ryan rejected every girl at the dance. He said that there was this one girl that tried grinding with Ryan and he just walked away. I keep getting all of this information that points towards him being gay. I really hope he is and I want to come out to him but I want to be more certain on his sexuality. Would it be a good idea to talk to or text some of his closer friends to figure out his past with girls and what they think about his sexuality? I do not want to spread rumors about him being gay. So far I have gotten other people to talk about their views on his sexuality without me just straight up asking "do you think he is gay?". I'm thinking about asking his best friend who I'm also friends with. They have known each other their whole lives so he will know whether or not Ryan is gay. And if I do talk/text his friend and learn anything, would it be a good idea to text Ryan asking if he is gay? Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.