So I was just in a relationship with this girl I knew (lasted about a month) and the last few weeks I was with her we didn't get to see each other which I think made her become more distant, later making her break up with me I think. The thing is though she said she wasn't gay enough for a serious lesbian relationship and I have to admit I am kind of confused about that. This relationship was mine and hers first with a person of the same sex so I guess we were both testing out what our sexual orientation where, she helped me to fully realise my sexuality and I guess I did for her too. She was always the one that was more physical during our time together so her telling me she isn't gay enough has just left me very I'm not trying to seem mean or anything I am just asking you guys if her saying she isn't gay enough makes sense to you?? Could you please help me to understand... I am hoping understand what she means will make it hurt less Thanks
(*hug*) Some people are 100% lesbian/gay, and others are 100% straight. But there are some people in between, someone may be 50/50 bisexual, and others can lean towards gay or straight, but be bisexual, if that makes sense. I would say I am 70% gay and only 30% straight, that's why my profile says I am "mainly gay". Your partner may have just not been sure about her true sexual orientation, or she may have been like me, but the other way around, and something like 30% lesbian, and 70% straight. She probably isn't those exact percentages, but if she isn't "gay enough", she may be mainly straight and less lesbian. It's like me, I would go out with a girl if I really loved her, but I wouldn't love her the same way I would for a boy, so I might say that I am not straight enough for that girl, if that makes sense. That might have been quite confusing, but overall, she might just me more straight than lesbian, or not sure about her orientation. Hope this Helped!(*hug*)
That was very helpful thank you very much and I think you are right in saying that she is mainly straight and only a little gay.... I think I knew from the start that she was less interested than I was but I was hoping that over time she would become more interested. I guess I am just going to have to accept what happened, be thankful for what she let me experience and hope for the best in the future in finding a partner. I think the reason it hurts so much is because I have trouble socialising with people (I call myself a socially awkward penguin) and I always have a fear that I will never find someone to be in a relationship with :'( Thank you very much for helping me to understand what she said :icon_bigg
