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I'm straight and my fiancé is bi

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Flowerchild, May 22, 2013.

  1. Flowerchild

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    I am looking for some advice on my situation.
    So it is pretty obvious that my fiancé is bi and these are the reasons why..
    When he was younger he did gay porn which is not reason enough for my belief that he's bi because people do a lot of things they normally wouldn't for money but he has also hooked up with numerous guys outside of that, not just at a certain time frame in his life but throughout his whole life. He constantly checks guys out and makes sexual comments about them, he has a lot of out/closet gay/bi friends, he loves flirting with men and he does so every chance he gets. We've gone to gay bars together and he suggested we pretend that we are just friends so that he would get hit on because he likes the attention. I play along and he is completely comfortable flirting, talking and dancing (grinding) with gay men, in fact he loves it! I know he's not fully gay because he also LOVES women and he is definitely sexually attracted to me. He's addicted to porn to the point that he watches it numerous times a day while he's at work and masturbates in the bathroom at work, he does this everyday! He only watches straight porn and he has an abnormal obsession with women and sex. Here's where I'm needing advice, I don't know if he's bi or just a sex addict. Every time I even remotely bring up the fact that he's bi he gets extremely offended which is understandable because he got picked on a lot about it growing up after he did gay porn. I have told him that I do not care either way and that's obvious from our gay bar escapades. I am not judgmental at all I myself have been bi curious in the past and I still enjoy lesbian porn. I want him to be comfortable with me and he has gotten better over time but not completely. So from what I've said what is your opinion? Is he bi or just a sex addict? And how should I handle the situation?
     
  2. clarkec1

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    I completely understand why it can be slightly difficult when you have a bisexual partner, because it makes you feel that they may not love you in the same way, or that it increases the probability of them leaving or cheating on you.

    I am bisexual and if I have a completely gay or straight partner then I would not blame them for being slightly suspicious and somewhat confused.

    You should have trust in your partner, and I can assure you that it is unlikely that they will leave you because of their bisexuality, and they will almost definitely love you just like they would a person of the same gender. You shouldn't look into things too deeply, and you really shouldn't worry about it.

    It is unlikely anything in your relationship will change, and you will know if it does.

    Hope this helped!