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Could she be gay? Bi?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by ViolinGirl8, Jun 7, 2013.

  1. ViolinGirl8

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    Hi!

    So, I have a friend that I've become very close to this year. She's about my age and at my maturity level. Throughout this past year, she's been dropping a lot of "hints" that she may be gay - things that don't always make sense and seem forced because she wants me to know something.

    For example, she's said things to me like:

    "I love homosexuals!"
    "_(insert name here)_ is probably gay - isn't that so cute!"

    and many more... She also points out a lot of girls that she finds attractive (this is pretty normal for any girl but she does it A LOT). In addition, she fights adamantly for gay rights.

    So, with all of this, I kind of assume that she's gay... BUT - she has had way too many boyfriends for someone our age and always points out cute guys that she's "going to marry they just don't know it yet".

    About a month ago, she asked a guy at our school out and was absolutely crushed when he rejected her.

    So, I'm confused. I don't need to label her and her sexual orientation won't change how I think of her as a person, but if I know she's probably not be heterosexual then I might want to come out to her as someone to support me.

    Does it sound like she's gay or bi? Would you suggest I talk to her about my struggle with identifying my sexual orientation?

    Thank you so much!
     
  2. Chase

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    I wouldn't really say she's lesbian. Her being bisexual is a possibility, though.

    She actually just sounds like a huge supporter of LGBT rights. If you're comfortable to confront and trust her with your sexual orientation issues, then I don't see why you couldn't talk to her about it!
     
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    It wouldn't hurt to ask her directly, since she seems pretty flexible about gay rights. Though, since you said she mentions it a lot, then the next time she brings something related to homosexuality up again, immediately ask her if she's gay/bisexual "or something" - just try not to sound so serious when asking her, you still wanna keep it cool as friends. She seems pretty open-minded.
     
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    If she's 12, 13, or 14, that is very young to know about one's sexuality, in all honesty. Perhaps she is, but perhaps we will not know until she grows older.

    I think she'd be a supportive friend to talk to about your sexuality, regardless =)
     
  5. ViolinGirl8

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    Thanks you guys! I do think that next time she brings up something related to homosexuality, I will talk to her about it. She is a SUPER open-minded person.

    Thanks again for all of your wonderful advice! I really appreciate it.
     
  6. AwEsoMeAsAlWaYs

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    Maybe she suspects that you are bi/lesbian so she is trying to reassure you that she will accept you. This all depends on how close you are. Just a thought.