In love with a "maybe" closeted guy, please help?

Well I'd let him know about you with subtle hints and such then say stuff to him if your good friends say you can tell me anything you know hope that helps

 

Sometimes you just have to take risks. Personally, I would have never risked coming out to someone that I was attracted to. It's up to you whether you want to risk it... Sometimes people just cannot take hints. I hinted to friends of mine that I liked guys in many ways but they never understood. They never 'suspected' me of being gay, either.

Coming out is always risky, practically, because you never know how someone will respond, and because initial reactions can be surprising. With that said, you may want to come out to someone who is 'less risky'. Do you have any close friends who are supportive of LGBT+ issues and people, and who you think you could trust to stay quiet? That person may be a better person to come out to, first.

I suggest this because if you got an averse reaction from this guy that you like, you may be crushed and having readily available support from someone who knows you and understands you somewhat is better than not having that available.

It is totally up to you, and I wish you luck =)

 

Idea it till school year that way it's more personal

 

Ah, sorry about that. I must be having a bad memory day.

Well, I think you should consider this person and his reaction, and subsequently what you'd be most comfortable with, while not putting him on-the-spot. That could mean that you'd email, or facebook message, or text him. If you like, you could also phone him or tell him in person, which, I suppose, would happen during the school year.

It's hard to say without knowing you better, and without knowing this guy, and without knowing your relationship to each other. I'm sure whichever method you choose will be fine, though =)

 

Well I'd start a conversation and somewhere I'd be like oh each I got something to say hey says what then say I'm bi wait for reply go from there

 

It depends. I see two possible ways you could address it, and perhaps something in between, which would be perhaps 'the best of both worlds', and by worlds, I mean options.

1. Serious~

"I have something to tell you. It's something I have to get off my chest. I'm bisexual."

From that, see how he responds. And then you could say, "There's something else. I have a big crush on you, and I really like you."

Love is too big a word at this point to use, and it could scare people away, regardless of whether they would like you or not, or do like you or not.

2. Light-hearted/dismissive/not-a-big-deal~

"Hey, I know this is random, but I want to tell you something. I feel like I can trust you. I'm bisexual."

He replies, and then you say, "I also have had a crush on you... I still want to be your friend no matter what, but I just wanted to let you know, 'cause it's hard for me to keep something like that from someone I like. Anyways, I don't want things to be different between us."

As you can see, both options are kind of similar, due to me sucking. You can tailor those to what you want, or as you see fit, but they're just suggestions. Ultimately, it's up to you, and, of course, you would know best what would work for you, in theory =)

 

Your welcome for any advice and thanks for the hug here's one back(*hug*)

 

This is a tricky situation (I have not read yet the previous postings, sorry), because I am dealing with a very similar situation. My crush is a person who is very open to being around gay men, and when I finally decided to come out to him, he said he understood, but was not sexually interested in men. He however, has no objections to me sending him text messages that are very clear about my feelings for him and sometimes (rarely) he even sends a little hart message back. Does that mean he is closeted? Not necessarily. He could be curious or just very open minded and comfortable with his own (straight) sexuality, not in fear of being "discovered". To be honest, I really don't know, but for now I have to accept his answer of being not interested in men and keep my hopes in check. In your situation, things may be different and perhaps your friend has provided you stronger less ambiguous cues about his interest in you. I have been advised by friends I talked to (some who are gay) that if in doubt, assume the person is not gay and start with that. I would approach him carefully and see how he responds to playful flirts, jokes, and the occasional physical touch (hands). I found the most distinctive features that were missing in my crush were that he never attempted to touch me and never in some obvious way was checking me out. If your friend does return the touches (as you seem to indicate) and you catch him (even now and then) eying you (above or below the belt), there is hope :icon_wink. Take it from there... Just a few cents of my personal experience. Hope it helps.:icon_bigg

 

I would drop a few subtle hints here and there and see how he reacts. That's what I do with guys I like or want to come out to. I start off with low risk things such as a pat on the shoulder and minor compliments. Also if you have a chance to have a talk about LGBT issues please take advantage of it.