I don't want to lose her to someone else...

Hi All,

I met this really great Bi-girl on a dating website, and I feel that we have this instant connection. So much to the point where I feel like I can talk to her about anything, and not be afraid to be me (she's been helping me in uncovering my Bisexual side). I am attracted to her - but I'm not sure if she is to me. I've been trying to flirt with her as best as I can, and we've gone out a couple of times, and she's also been talking in ways that we're gonna continue to see each other too - but as friends, hanging out - what?

That's where I'm starting to fret, as she's told me that she's kissed another girl the other night but felt nothing - that she's looking for something more than a fling, that she wants to connect with someone on an emotional and spiritual level - not just physical.

We've spoken about what we're looking for in our next partner, and we also seem to gel in that area too.

So what should I do? Should I put my heart on the line and tell her I want my first female relationship to be with her? ...in the past when I've told guys that I've liked them, they've all run away. So I'm reluctant to do that again. But on the other hand, I don't want her to assume I just want to be her friend, and she continues to be on the hunt looking for another girl to be her proper girlfriend.

I'm confused - I'm not very good at establishing relationships, and I think that's why I've never had one before - neither guy or girl (to which she also knows this, but doesn't hold it against me). In the end, I feel a higher connection with her than I do my regular female friends, and I hope she feels the same way - but I'm too chicken to find out.