I have been talking to this guy online for just over a week and he is really attractive and has an amazing personality, but he lives in America and I live in England. After a couple of days of speaking, he told me that I need to come to America and I said I will. He kept on saying that and I kept on saying I will in a joking way, thinking he was joking and I thought he knew that I wasn't being serious as well. He wasn't joking, and now he thinks I am coming to America to see him this month or next. He has told his friends and family that I am coming down and they can't wait to see me. He has told me that he wants to be in a relationship with me but I don't want to be in a relationship with him; I would prefer him to be a friend rather than a boyfriend. Things have happened so quickly and I am really taken aback by it. I have only known him for nearly 2 weeks and he wants to me to visit him. We have been on cam and spoke on the phone numerous times so I know he isn't a psycho :lol: (I think he isn't anyway) but I don't know how to tell him I don't want to see him. I don't know if I said things to him to lead him on because that wasn't my intention, but no matter how I tell him, it is probably going to upset him. Any advice please?
Just tell him. You don't have much of a choice here. If he doesn't understand that the 3000 mile difference is clearly a huge barrier to being in a relationship than he is probably not someone you would want to be involved with in my opinion. Just stay friends. Additionally, someone that attached after 2 weeks is probably bad news anyways. It doesn't say your age but it sounds like you are between 15 and 25. 2 weeks is barely enough time for most people close to each other to meet up after meeting online, let alone travelling across the world. Just tell him and I would look to meet someone more local if you are interested in a relationship.
In my book, it would be pretty ridiculous to expect that somebody you've been talking to over Skype for 2 weeks would expect you to just jump on a plane and go see them. If he really believes you should do this... he might have a few screws loose. How old is the guy? How old are you?
Yeah, as the others said, just tell him. I had a guy on Skype who said he wanted to marry me (also from America, and I'm in England) and he was gonna come down to see me. I got a girlfriend just a few weeks later and I had to tell him that I didn't feel the same. We still talk and he's moved on. Just tell him (*hug*)
