Third Date Rule

Fuck the "rule": have sex when you and he both want to have sex, and not a date sooner.

 

...there's always camping!

 

Huh, I knew my current partner about 4 years before we even dated...though once we did, well, we got into things pretty quickly!

I don't think there's any rule about a 3rd date...do what feels most natural.

The first time I did have sex with a guy, it was in my first car, a hatchback where the seats folded down. We 'parked' late at night on a fairly remote lake, nothing but the sounds of loons, frogs, insects. The moon was full. Looking back, all in all, it was just about perfect, despite how awkward we felt.

 

For what it's worth, I've never heard of this rule. Don't worry about it ; )

 

I'll echo what others say: forget the "rule." Have sex when the time is right for you, not some rule the sheeple insist on.

I guess your Jeep would work...but I'd try for other locations first. Particularly since it's time #1. You should have someplace comfortable.

Is the problem with your home ONLY that your dad could be uncomfortable? That is, you haven't been given any hard and fast "you will not have sex in this house under any circumstances!" lectiure? If discomfort is the only issue, you might just find a time when your parents will be out for a long time. This might be a good time to consider treating them to tickets for two to some cultural event they've been dying to go to.

Another option would be a motel. A classic choice for having sex when you can't do it at home, particularly those having an affair. One motel in my area is even flexible enough to offer hourly rates. Or at least they did the last I heard. Obviously a motel costs more, but I'd think a cheap motel would be good enough. It would, I think, be worth the cost for the first time.

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That also could be an option.

I'm not sure how great it would be for Time #1. But it would be memorable, and probably work better than the back of a Jeep.

 

I've heard of the rule, but I'll "do the deed" as I'll put it , when me and him both feel ready.

 

Lol... I've heard of that, I would only do it, if it was a very serious relationship, and you guys loved each other.

Also sex under the stars, would be nice.

 

My penis. :x

 

Er. Hopefully this is totally irrelevant, but I notice the OP is in Canada. I don't know about Stony Creek, but in Alaska (where I come from) at this time of year the mosquitoes pretty much have their own air force and are known to carry off large dogs and small children...(ok, kidding...small dogs and infants). It's also daylight about 20hrs a day and even the 'night' isn't very dark.

The upshot of this is that sex outdoors under the stars (while romantic) can potentially involve lots of visitors with too many legs and a tendency to bite in (ahem) sensitive places. BTW does Stony Creek get wood ticks...?

Personally, I'd suggest a mid-price motel or hotel and (if you really want to go all out) enough time to let you both play at leisure multiple times (the bed(s), the shower, wherever else looks fun) and relax in between (at least overnight and maybe the weekend). You and (and presumably your guy) are young and I'm assuming that once is simply not going to be enough. So might as well plan accordingly.

If you can find a place that has big sliding closet doors that are mirrored, so much the better

An advantage of this is that you can be comfortable and have fun without feeling self-conscious about your parents being in the house or coming home in X number of hours.

Then again, maybe this is more like Date Four material. I'm told I have a tendency to occasionally overplan/overdo things...

Todd

 

Ummm.. I don't know what you think "us Americans" speak, but to my knowledge it's English and with a southern dialect, I add an "e" to "stoney".

As for advice... I am a virgin, but I just want to say, my ideal first time with a guy would have to be camping or, more publicly, in like a plain or meadow at night. Getting goose bumps thinking of how romantic that'd be! As for my first time with a girl I've always thought of sunset on a beach.

Anyways, maybe this helped, but probably didn't. Just me being my hopeless romantic self

 

Unless you're an asexual couple.