I'm freaking out...help...

I don't mean to sound cruel or unfeeling but have you tried anti-anxiety drugs like Paxil? It has helped lessen my anxiety attacks. Yes, anxiety attacks do feel like real physical pain.

 

This may sound kind of trite, but have you spoken to anyone about this? Just telling someone you know something like this can be very cathartic. More so than talking about it on a forum (at least in my opinion).

 

Do you have any school counsellors you could talk to? Just from personal experience, it's super beneficial to talk to these people since it's confidential. My school has a policy that as long as you don't talk about doing something illegal, harming yourself, or reporting abuse then it's a secret.

I agree with the don't need medicine part. I've had an anxiety problem since I was 6 and now I'm 16 and for those 10 years of my life I've been in and out of therapy. Not once have I been on medication. It really does help. I don't know about programs, but in my city there are free youth clinics that offer counsellors.

If you need someone to talk to my wall is always open! :smilewave

 

Hi BicuriousBoy. (*hug*)

Yes, it does sound like you had an anxiety attack. It's okay though, they're normal. You're going to be alright.

It's likely your feelings came back when you realized he wasn't returning. Then you're surrounded by all this stuff that reminds you of him, which just makes it worse. Basically, it sounds like you're mourning - as if you've lost someone. This is understandable, because in a way you have, but it does get better with time.

So, what can you do in the meantime to start the healing process? Actively move on. This means taking some steps to change your life for the better. One of the worst things you can do right now is to flop down into a state of depression and wallow. Being active in some way is important in keeping you busy, but it's also going to be a way to make new friends and potentially even someone who will return your feelings.

Since you're sixteen and have a job, I'm assuming that you have your own transportation. This is good news because this gives you some freedom. So, what can you do with that freedom?

Well... it depends on where you live. I'd actively look for a LGBT Teen group in your area, if you live outside of a city it might mean you'll have to drive to get there, but it can be worth it. However, let's assume worst case scenario here and that no LGBT Teen group is even remotely near you. This is okay, because this provides you with the opportunity to begin looking into finding some new hobbies and trying out some new things. Think about something you really like and look around for groups of people who share your interest. Chances are you're going to find a group of people somewhere nearby who share the same hobby or interest. This provides you with the opportunity to make new friends - as you already share something in common with them.

Keep an open mind. Look around. The most important thing you can do is get active.

Hopefully this helps, and remember you're going to feel better with time. (*hug*)

 

Once you get your license how far will you be from a city, some place where you'd likely find some LGBT Teen groups?

 

^ this.

 

Again, I am going to say try counselling first and use medication as a last resort.

Are there any youth counselors in your area that you can see? Most of them are free and confidential where I live and I don't know what your school counselor is like, but that's always an option as well. Talking to someone is always better than talking to no one. Most of them are pretty good from my experience and everything should be confidential.

I used to have anxiety attacks on a daily basis when I was 6 and 8 to the point where I would be physically ill. Talking to the right people to give you coping mechanisms will really help.

Feel better!