talking to parents without coming out

So as a result, im assuming, of my gender dysphoria im very depressed and have axiety issues and im not doing well in school. Im going into my senior year of college and my parents got a letter that Im on accademic probation. Unfortunantly im not home this summer so i wasnt able to intercept it. My problem is that they want to know WHY im not doing well in school. They keep trying to get me to switch majors or take time off and live at home and get things sorted out, which im sure would just make things worse because being home is really uncomfertable for me. I also love my major and hate that im not learning as much as a can about it but i just cant get out of bed some days. Im only just begining to figure out that my social anxiety is stemming from my gender dysphoria and it gets so bad sometimes that i dont leave my room for days at a time which means i end up missing a lot of class. I know that i will have a hard enough time telling them that im dealing with depression to start with but fending them off from trying to figure out why im depressed is not going to be easy. They are very against the idea of depression, they see it more as a lack of willpower than any sort of mental issue, so theres going to be some serious judgemnt there. I am in therapy in school and im working through those issues but i cant figure out how to tell them that im dealing with "it" and not letting them know what "it" is. They dont let things like this go. As i am only starting to become more comfertable with myself and my identity and things like pronouns I am in no way ready to come out to them. If i just say that ive been depressed they wont let it drop untill they know what started it all. I hate lying to them but i just dont see another way around it.

 

Thanks for the advice, and your right, they need to learn that its not really there buisness anymore and its my decision what i tell them and what i dont. Unfortunantly i am still reliant on them financially, though my last year of school is all in loans so its all on me at this point. Im still reliant on them for some other things though. For the most part they are very supportive, more concerned than anything at the moment because theres obviously something going on. I just know that if I tell them anything at all they wont let it go untill they've pried the truth out of me. I dont think they would ever cut me off completely but they would definetly be less likely to help me out if i needed them. I can probably play it off as a lack of mitivation, which is partly true, and leave it at that. If they push too hard I'll just tell them its something i need to figure out on my own.