Okay so I am trying to figure out if my attractive co-worker is gay...When people first meet him they think he is gay. People have asked him if he was and he was like"why does everyone always ask me that, I am not". And one time me and my other co worker Julia were playing the "first impression" game with him, and when it was Julias turns on him, he was like, "you thought I was gay huh?!" He sometimes does gay sex jokes, and also with my old co worker who was guy they would always like be overly sexual with each other...saying things like "Me and Marty are going to have babies together" "and were going to have fun tonight" but I mean it sounded like they were just joking. Marty then told us that he was bi, and then the co-worker I think might be gay his name is Chris btw, said to one of my others co-workers regarding Marty, "oh I better stop acting like this towards Marty", but he never stopped...because my co worker told him just because he is bi doesn't mean he wants you...and Chris was like "oh right". oh and he is 22 and he had his first "girlfriend" for 9 months at 21, and they broke up three times and now their just friends. He also has a very huge ego and VERY flirty with girls that come into our work, getting numbers. He also told me he is a manwhore. I have always had my suspicions that Chris was either gay or bi... so I confronted him about Marty being bi and them always being sexual, and I was like "Oh now I know why you and Marty were gonna have babies." He got super uncomfortable and was like "I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever go that way". But its weird because (Im clearly gay btw, very sassy he has said I was sassy, flamboyant ect.") he is always saying I am his favorite employee, and when he meets my friends and family he brags about me. He also asked me and my other co workers if he'd be good in porn. One time he was like "I am a pretty attractive person" and looked at me for my reaction. One time I was like I need a NEW BFF and he said "I'll be your BFF, but you don't want to be mine..." I always save some ice tea for him (we work at a coffee shop) at the end of work and one time to my other co-worker he was like "see ryan is sassy but he loves me!"... I also was having a party, and I mentioned it and he was like "Why didn't you invite me... " he has done other things towards me that makes me he thinks he is gay and likes me...Like one time he randomly came up to me at work and was like "Ryan thank you for being yourself", but I don't know if he just likes me as a friend, and is straight and comfortable with his sexuality, or bi or just closeted gay... I don't know I am confused, he is very confusing....he smiles when he sees me, and notice sometimes when I walk into work he'll say hey and smile and stare at me for a bit. Ask me any questions, if you think it'd help figuring anything out, I might remember others things he has done.
Really, there is nothing here that is obvious enough to say that he is gay. Buut, that being said, guts are pretty accurate I think. I think there are little tells and subtle signs that tell you if someone is attracted to you. I'd say go ahead and trust your instincts and find a moment to talk to him privately and ask him if he might have feelings for you. Judging from the fact he knows you're gay and doesn't care I very much doubt his reaction will be harsh if you are wrong. But if you are RIGHT you may have just done him a really big favor, cuz if he does like you, there is no doubt you will have been on his mind <3 Omg I hope this works out. I always think these kinds of things are sooo romantic. I am a sucker for forbidden love XD
I would go with Stefani on this. Just find a moment and don't pressure him into anything. If your suspicions are correct, he may not admit it at first. It can be difficult for someone who hasn't fully accepted their sexuality to accept their feelings for the same-sex. And if you're wrong, he seems like the kind of person who wouldn't be angry with you. Regardless of being right or wrong, make him comfortable and don't be overeager for an answer. Just be calm and trusting. I know that's not much, but I hope it helps. And yes, Stef, this is so romantic it's precious! Rooting you on from my computer screen XD
